How about me....Where is my Man?

   Make God happy because He will see that when He blesses you with this spiritual partner you won’t just give Him the cold shoulder, you won’t stop praying and doing everything you were doing. He will notice that you are in for the long run, that you are asking for a partner, but you are also asking for yourself and are taking care of your salvation because you know that no matter what, salvation is individual.

   Do all these things and before you know it your partner will be right before your very own eyes, and it won't be just anyone. If you did everything that was mentioned in the previous posts, your partner  will be the one you will end up marrying and spending the rest of your life with. You will not have your heart broken because this is the person sent to you by God to make you happy. 

   My twin sister and I were born together in the same sac, we grew up together and were taught everything we know together. When we were twelve years old our mother used to send us to the sentimental services held in the church (Therapy of Love), and she would tell us to begin praying for our husbands she would say “Elsie and Elise, you don’t know where your husbands are, for all you know he might be in the hands of the devil” so every week we were there, the only two twelve year olds in the bundle of adults, praying for our sentimental lives. At the time we didn’t understand the purpose of all this we thought it was crazy, I mean we were just twelve – we still wanted to play with toys and we were already there praying for a husband. But we did what we were told, we knew that something was going to come out of this, and it sure did! (Our dream was to give our lives in doing the work of God, but not everyone is meant to have this same dream, maybe your dream is to not do the work of God as a pastor or pastors wife but it is to do something else. But according to our dream and determination God answered us).

   At seventeen, five years later my sister Elise was introduced to her partner, Assistant Pastor Damien by an elder in the church. Damien wasn’t always happy and blessed the way he is now, his ex life style as you can read in his book "Shoulda been Dead" was gang banging, addiction to drugs, and a prisoner always in and out of jail, until he found God. As Elise began speaking to him and asking questions she realized that at the age she was in church praying for her sentimental life, at that exact time Damien was in the gang, beginning to have second thoughts. Through her perseverance, Damien began coming to church and became free from all bondage. Note: Damien was in Atlanta, Georgia; USA while Elise was in Pawtucket, Rhode Island, USA (thousands of miles apart). Through prayer, she got her partner and he is completely transformed Thank God.

 

   Amen, I was happy for her but now how about me, Where is my husband?

So I became revolted, I began praying and fasting; I made chains of prayers, praying every hour by hour on the dot, for five minutes long every hour these prayers were against the devil. I would stretch my hands and begin binding all evil wherever my husband to be was.

 

Continuation of my story on Sundays post......

Keep tuned to find out how I got to find MY MAN!!!

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Break all curses of hell that is sending all the wrong people to your partner such as worldly partners that are only blocking his/her ways from finding you

Let the devil know you mean business!

 

    That you're not joking around. For all you know, your partner might be completely in the devils hands right now he/she might not even be in the church yet and probably isn’t even planning on coming to the church. Your partner was probably given an invitation to come to church and probably rejected it. He/she might be in prison or selling drugs on street corners, probably she is selling her body to every man that could give her ten bucks for a one night stand. He might be the leader of the toughest gang around – killing, stealing, getting high, clubbing etc. You don't  know where your partner may be right now. You may not even know who he/she is but by faith you know he’s/she’s yours. You must pray for him/her to be yours because he/she cannot come to you in this way; he/she has to be completely transformed.

    Don’t waste time on day dreaming!

 

 

    Your partner is at risk of being shot down like a dog on the street, or risks catching HIV and dying. Burn every one of the devil’s plans and/or projects for your partner’s life by opening your mouth and speaking against the devil and determining your victory by faith. Also, ask God to protect your partner, to open the doors of heaven so your partner can find the house of God. He/she is out there somewhere either in the church or still in the streets. On the mean time as you are doing these things don’t hesitate to look your best at all times, you don’t want to get caught of guard, because remember, you still haven’t met your partner so you might meet him/her at anytime and you might want to look your best. Appearance is important for a man or woman of God because ‘first appearance’ means a lot but most importantly before physical appearance comes the spiritual one. 

 

Make sure you are up to date in your spiritual life. Stay in communication with God, seeking the Holy Spirit for yourself on a daily basis. This is your time, its not the time to mention anything about your partner. This is your time with God, a time where you can show God that you really love Him. Have a encounter with God, and by doing this, you will grow spiritually and have the strength to do all that is needed to be done. Make God look down favourably upon you, you  must catch His attention. For there are billions of people on earth so why must His eyes look upon you?  

 

 “For the eyes of the LORD search back and forth across the whole earth, looking for people whose hearts are perfect toward him, so that he can show his great power helping them…”

2 Chronicles 16:9 .

 

Make God happy to see that you don't just want the blessing of having a partner by your side but that you actually want the Blesser.

 

Choosing the right partner (part 2)

   

Little by little she began falling in love with him and a few months later they got married in the UCKG and began the work of God together, traveling the world to preach the good news. This gentleman that approached my mother was a semi-short, light skinned Brazilian man who had black hair and black eyes.

God sent to our mother the man of her dreams without her even knowing, she thought that the man of her dreams was this tall dark skinned man with hazel eyes, which in reality was nowhere near. Today my mom is happily married for Twenty two years and divorce is nowhere in the picture, they are actually looking forward to more and more years together. Another case is a gentleman who I know, he being a tall, light skinned man with green eyes prayed for a tall, dark skinned woman; He ended up falling in love and marrying the true woman of his dreams - a short, light skinned woman.

    

In the stage of you being single, persevere in prayers, fasting, sacrifice, because sacrifice is what brings the result even quicker. Prepare yourself in everyway to receive your blessing, but DO NOT be anxious. God did not create anxiety!

"An anxious heart weighs a man down..." Proverbs 12:25 (NIV)

     Seek the Holy Spirit as much as possible especially when feeling lonely, ask God to temporarily fill that empty space inside of you. Then use your faith to believe that while you are preparing yourself for your soon to be partner, God is on the other side preparing your partner for you. Also make it a daily habit to stretch out your hands towards the outside world and begin to bind all evil around your husband or wife to be, but really burn all evil around them by faith. Why stretch out your hands? Because when you stretch your hands straight out, it represents (shows) authority. For example when you are driving and at the traffic light stands a police officer, although the light is green and it is your go, if that police officer stretches out a hand, straight out. You automatically stop without thinking twice. Why is that? It's because that police officer is an authority,  when their hand is stretched out it means something. So when you stretch out your hands it means something too, it shows your authority over the devil. Jesus Himself gave you that authority “These signs will accompany those who believe: They will cast out demons in my name…” Mark 16:1 (NLT). “And I have given you authority over all the power of the enemy…” Luke 10:19 (NLT). So the devil must obey he has no choice. Talk directly to the devil tell him to let go of your partner wherever he/she is. If your partner is still in this world on drugs, alcohol, prostitution, in a gang, sleeping around etc. If your partner wants nothing to do with God, bind all evil around him/her from finding Jesus.

Choosing the right partner

We need to pray and ask God to close our eyes and choose our partner just as He did to Adam.

Do you know why God put Adam to sleep before making Eve?
Because us human beings are never satisfied and our eyes are very critical!

If Adam was awake he probably would’ve said to God, “oh no… she’s too fat, too skinny, too tall, too short, too ugly etc., etc.” But because God knew Adam better than he knew himself, he made the perfect woman for him that when Adam awoke he was so amazed with the work of God that he couldn’t say anything; but to love the woman. This is exactly what happened to my sister and I and we are absolutely sure that the same will happen to you, if you allow God to close your eyes and choose your companion for you. Read (Genesis 2:21 – 25) and ask God to close your physical eyes and open your spiritual ones.

If you are single and looking for a man/ woman of God the only thing to do is pray, prayer brings the result to everything. Pray that God may shut your eyes so that you may not look with physical eyes for anyone but that God may search the world and choose the right person for you. God knows everything, He created everyone, He knows who you are and what kind of character you have, He knows who your perfect match is. Don’t look around you to see if there is anyone else cute and single. Where you are there might not be!

 

Don’t be negative, negativity doesn’t come from God. Pray and ask God to shut your eyes so you wont look for anyone, but, let Him know that you want to serve Him and in order to serve Him you need a spiritual partner; You don’t even need to describe what type of person you want God knows – remember he created you. He knows you more than you know your own self. But if you want to describe to God what type of person you would like as your partner, then go right ahead.

 I have known people who described to God what type of person they’d like as a suitable partner and all these people ended up falling in love with someone completely different then they described. In all these cases it happened to be the exact opposite of their descriptions, that’s why we say “God knows you more than you know your own self.” One of these cases was my mother; Twenty two years ago when she came to the Universal Church of the Kingdom of God after being converted and becoming an assistant, wanting to get married to a man of God to do the work of God. She, being a semi - short light skinned woman would pray for a tall, dark skinned man with hazel eyes, before she knew it a gentleman from the church approached her and properly introduced himself to her then he asked her out on a date, she accepted.

 

 

Continuation about what happened to my mom on my next post that will be posted on Sunday.......

Wordly vs Godly relationships (part 2)

In a relationship of the world you can do anything, with no limits at all. But you can also get anything with no limits at all. You’ll do anything imaginable to try and keep your partner, anything! Including sex before marriage. Not thinking of the consequences you face. You’re only thinking about having fun and keeping your partner. But the consequences you face are so important;
You are looking at:
*Facing severe depression of being let down once again by the person whom you thought this time would be it.
* Getting pregnant and facing the dilemma of having to carry around a baby and for the rest of your life. While not being yet prepared for it and by someone whom you might not even love.
*Lets not forget that STD (Sexually Transmitted Disease) such as Aids, HIV, Syphilis, Herpes or Chlamydia, they still exist. They are not just made up STD's they are actually out there. Because I work in the church, I know a lot of people that have them, people that you couldn't imagine in your wildest dreams that would have it.  AND TO DIE!  For a few minutes of fun! What’s so fun about any of this?

 Worldly relationships can be called "fun", but at the end of the day there are consequences that you and you alone will have to face. Most of the time the flesh is the one that ends up paying the price for it. I personally don’t think its worth it, how about you? Think about it....

Godly Relationships

   On the other hand there are Godly relationships. In a Godly relationship you would do basically what this blog will be teaching you to do. The opposite of a worldly relationship.

*You would go out with the person, speak and get to know him/her both inside and out.

*You would also test the spirit of the person which is to see how the person responds to what you do or say. Testing the spirit is another word for saying keep your eyes open to what your partner thinks about God.

*When this person is relaxed and normal how does he/she act? Is he/she putting on a fake façade in front of others or even in front of you? That is testing the spirit. (Seeing this person’s true self, what he/she is really like?)

*What does this man/woman think about God?

*Is he/she spiritually at your level?

Then think sensibly whether or not this person is the right one for you. Because after all marriage is forever.

   The person in the Godly relationship is looking out for the bigger picture which is marriage, and not just any marriage but instead a happy marriage. They don’t go out for fun or just because they haven’t slept with someone in a long time and need to rapidly find someone new to sleep with. The Godly relationship is led by the Spirit of God, and not by the person’s physical or emotional needs. When dating in a Godly manner yes it is more difficult than normal and yes it is more limited in what you can and cannot do, but it is all for your benefit. Look at the things that you can do rather than the things that you cannot do (for now). Treasure and take advantage of things you are allowed to do. Use your time wisely to get to know your partner. Dear reader: sacrifice your fleshly or physical desires. Since when did a sacrifice not hurt? Ask our father of faith Abraham.

    I’m not Abraham, nor was I even alive to see the expression on his face or the feeling in his heart when God asked him to sacrifice his dearest and only son Isaac. But I’m sure that it must have hurt. His heart probably fell to the ground the instant God asked him to sacrifice his son. But nevertheless he did it.!He walked the entire journey with one purpose; to sacrifice. Even though it hurt. Read his story (Genesis 22), the outcome was victory; he was a man of sacrifice. Thousands of years later and people still remember the faith of our father Abraham.

   By doing things Gods way and having a Godly relationship. You won’t have to go through the horrible consequences that the worldly relationship leads to. You wont end up with an STD  or pregnant: Because you didn’t sleep around. You wont feel sad and lonely: Because God is with you and if the relationship is from God  you wont break up and have a new boyfriend/ girlfriend every month. But instead you will have a true meaningful relationship that lasts and leads up to marriage. You wont end up depressed and broken hearted because this person if he/she is from God he/ she will treat you with the up most respect and care. You won’t have to feel depressed because this person always makes you feel good. You won’t have low self esteem because your partner is forever telling you how beautiful or handsome you are.

   The consequences in this type of relationship compared to a worldly relationship is a 180 degree turn. They are completely different from one another. And at the end of the day because you sacrificed your flesh; God will honor you. In ways more than you can imagine. Make your choice which relationship do you want to be in?

 The Worldly relationship or the Godly relationship? 

                                    Be Wise!

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