Can I move in with a guy who promised to make me his wife?

I apologize for not posting in a while.....I know you have been patiently waiting :)
I have been receiving numerous questions to be answered from bloggers, once again, thanks for being bold and sending me your questions.

As always, I will make sure to remain anonymous as I post your question and answer it here on my blog

Bloggers question:
"Can I move in with a guy who has promised to make me his wife? He has given me a ring, so we just need to set a date to get married. Can we have sex?"

Dear bloggers,
 The answer to your questions are short and simple. Also straight to the point.
No, you should not move in with you boyfriend even if he promised to get married to you. If he proposed to you and gave you an engagement ring, then he is your fiancé now. But fiancé does not make you a married couple yet. You need to show him that you want to follow the right morals, that you want to do things the right way.

In the Bible it says:
'It is good for a man not to touch a woman. Nevertheless, because of sexual immorality, let each man have his own wife, and let each woman have her own husband'
1 Corinthians 7:1-2

If you guys want to have sex, then get married. If you want to move in with each other, then get married first. Most men make so many promises first, just to have sex, then you sit around waiting for that marriage that you've always dreamed off and most of the times, it doesn't happen.

Before getting married you have to see if the two of you are the right fit. Do you love him? does he love you? Are the two of you financially established? can he support you as a man? Is God in first place ? If so and you are desperate to move in and have sex, then get married this week. If he promised to make you his wife and you want to move in together, then get married immediately. That way you won't sin in lust for each other. But, if you say, no, we aren't financially ready for a marriage, he's not ready to get married now, or visa versa. We still getting to know each other.......then wait! Get everything in order first, then get married.

Moving in with each other and having sex is something you do when you are married. That is a big deal before God. Sex is becoming one with your mate. How are you going to have sex and become one, when your marriage hasn't even been presented to God?

So my answer to your question is NO! No you should not move in with your fiancé until you get married first, and NO you can not have sex until you get married. Sex is to be preserved for your husband/wife, and since you aren't married yet, then you should wait until you do get married.

I hope this answer was helpful to you. You know who you are......

Again, Thanks for the question

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P -pray
U -until
S -something
H -happens

You want to find Love - P.U.S.H
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   Don’t slow your role, because you know have that special someone. Instead keep doing more. Don’t spend all your time with your partner that you don’t have time for God. But also don’t stay in church all day that you end up not spending time getting to know your partner better.

Find time for everything. There are 24 hours in a day, enough time for it all.  No matter how busy you are, you just need to balance it out; Have Balance.  In the Bible a wise King called King Solomon once wrote about this subject; read (Ecclesiastes 3: 1-8). By doing all of these things; If done with a sincere and true heart of a servant. Your partner will see in you a strong character, one that represents the Almighty God you serve. This will only put more of an assurance in your partners’ heart that you are of God.

 

 

 

 

Is sex before marriage the only way that the devil can trick you?

Question from one of my bloggers, and an answer by me

Hello Mrs. Elsie,

My questions are about the process of dating. There are a lot of assistants who, even after praying to God for their love lives, end up falling into a trap of the devil.

I want to know two things; after praying, how can we tell if he/she is really the one that God made especially for us? If the person is already dating their partner, is sex before marriage the only way that the devil can still trick them into messing up or are there other physical boundaries before marriage?

Thank you Mrs. Elsie :-)

Dear blogger:
1)God made someone for you, Trust in HIM. When you have the Holy Spirit, God shows you exactly who suits you. When that man/woman of God approaches you, you will know right away that this is the one. As long as you have a relationship with God, God has got your back....

2)The devil is dirty. He's always going to try and find a way to make you fall into his trap. Whether you are single, or married. He will always try and find a way. In a relationship, you have to always be on guard. When you are dating, the only things you pretty much can't do is touch each other inappropriately and have sex. So you can be absolutely SURE that those are the things the devil will tempt you with. You have to outsmart the devil!

for more info, read my other post 'KISS.....But do not touch'

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                                                                      OR
                                   to want to ask something but your embarrassed to.

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I need a Man

Question from one of my bloggers and an answer by me:

I have been disappointed in the past and deep down I don't want to be hurt again, I just want to be loved. I will put my spiritual life first. If a man isn't direct with me I usually get turned off simply because I am a mature person with kids. I am beyond the silly, giggly don't know what to do or say phase. I don't even know what's love anymore

 

 

 

Dear blogger:

I understand your point completely and I agree with you. But I do want to say that love is suppose to be fun. Its suppose to allow you to be yourself, and flirty and have fun with your best friend. You can't allow yourself to be so serious to the point that you don't have any fun. 

 

I am with you when you say you want a straight forward guy or else you get turned off. I agree, that turns on any girl.

But, what if I told you that while dating, my husband put aside his seriousness to talk to me and get to know me. But, after we got married, he acted as if he already conquered what he wanted and he went back to being so serious all the time. And to me, that's a turn off because it was like he was cold towards me. All because of his seriousness. 

I didn't like that. It turned me off. But I loved him so I helped him by always talking to him and pointing out every time he would be cold towards me. Or when he would act so serious to the point that it didn't feel like we were in a relationship. It felt like we just worked together. We had lots of problems in our marriage until I realized that love is suppose to be fun. Its suppose to make you feel those butterflies in your stomach. Its suppose to allow you to be giggly and YES, even act a bit silly sometimes. Your partner is suppose to be your best friend (after God of course). After a while of helping my husband with what I called 'his flaw' he now is a whole lot better. He's still working on it, because that's just his personality. And yes, sometimes I still have to point out to him a thing here or there. But I will give him credit because he changed! Soon I won't need to point it out anymore. He'll get it on his own. Love takes work, but its an investment that pays off.

Again, I do agree with you. I think men need to Man up and Speak up. But some men could use a little help at it. However, If you find yourself having to always take the lead, then Run away from that, because we women need a MAN, not a boy.