GENTLEMAN.....Make a move

By this time, the two of you should have already been on a few dates and exchanged phone numbers. You should already know a lot about your partner, now its time to break the ice. Call your partner everyday if possible, ask when is the best time to call. Speak to him/her for a few minutes everyday until your next date, there is nothing wrong with calling everyday, in fact this should be done to get you two comfortable with each other. Make conversation, a dialogue with the two of you talking and not just one of you talking the whole time. Make this a habit because this is what is going to be going on everyday until the two of you get
married. Conversation helps you stay in touch with what is going on in each others life daily and it also helps you two fall in love a lot quicker. It’s almost like being on a date everyday. If you both are in the same church and you see each other everyday, then that’s ok, if you have time during the day to talk, then talk. But if your working hard and only have time to say a quick Hi, for a short time then that’s not considered talking, so you should call each other at the best time and talk for just a few more minutes. Ask how was their day, what new things did they learn from the bible, talk to your partner and tell him/her that you were thinking about them and can’t wait to see him/her, and so on. Show your excitement and interest towards them.

GENTLEMAN

this time take your lady to a better place such as the movie to see a comedy or action. Talk to her during the week and converse with her on where she would like to be taken on the next date. Ask her to prepare a little snack and take her to the park for a little picnic. Go to a simple amusement park where there are roller coaster rides or to a local fair. This time, make the move to hold her hands. Start of slow. She may probably start to giggle and become shy, but that’s a good thing as long as you are the one making the moves. Hold her hands first. Make that a routine thing to do in public. Bring her close to you and hold her hands. That's about all for now. Don't rush into things....First just hold her hands.

As always, hold the doors for her and let her go first, make her feel like a princess. Tell her how beautiful you think she is, tell her what you like about her like her hair or her eyes, her feet, her hands, her arms, her personality, the way she laughs etc, whatever you like about her, now is the time to let her know.

Dump a person just because of a difference in taste???

   The reason why we tend to First look at things in our partner that we dislike, is because we get nervous. We know that this is something that will affect us for the rest of our lives. Therefore, we start trying to protect ourselves by judging the one God chose for us.

   Don’t worry, God has everything under control. You will fall in love. Maybe the same thing happened when your partner first set eyes on you. Everything will work out just fine. God has a plan for all of us. He chose your partner for you and you for your partner. If you still feel nervous about it, pray, ask God to help you trust in Him, ask Him to help you fall in love and to stop looking at what you don’t like but to help you look at what you do like. Because physical attraction is also very important.

   As mentioned before, prayer brings the result to everything. Maybe the type of clothes your partner likes to wear is not the type of clothes you like for him/her to wear, but he/she is a sweet person and very handsome/beautiful. Are you going to dump that person just because of a difference in taste.

Of course not!

   Style is something that can always be altered but it’s not always that you can find such a sweet person full of the Holy Spirit. Later on into the relationship, pray, then little by little you can talk to your partner about it and because the two of you will be so much in love he/she will start to change just for you and it would be more of a pleasure then an obligation for your partner to do this for you. 

Learn from experience

One of my bloggers commented on my last post.
I found this to be pretty interesting. 
Please read below:

Dear Mrs Elsie

This post speaks volumes. I have always had an image of the kind of man I wanted God to bless me with. Funny thing, is that I got the exact thing, but spiritually he was not well. I was so focussed on how he should look like, instead of Who he should have inside of him.

Now I have learned to ask God for a man of God. Someone with a heart after His Own. Most importantly I have learned to seek God more than I seek a future husband! He should be my first Husband.

Thanks for this post. God bless

Posted by Lisa Gumada

Have you ever heard that phrase - Don't judge a book by its cover?

What a little make up can do

   You don’t need to tell anyone else about your deep dark secrets, but you do need to talk about it to your partner (this is assuming you spoke to God about it too). Your partner has every right to know. Don't hide anything, be honest and sincere no matter how bad it was or how much it hurts. This is not someone who is going to sit there and judge you; this is someone who is trying to find out about you to be able to make you happy. Let your partner know what your likes and dislikes are in everything, but most importantly, in a relationship. Don't be nervous, act yourself so your partner can see who you are, don’t try to be someone you are not.

 

Fat can be transformed into muscles

   When I met Leonardo I was a little nervous, it’s normal to be nervous because this is something new. However, I remembered I had to calm down and act myself so Leonardo could know the type of person I really am. I don’t think he was nervous, and if he was, he didn’t show it. He was the one that made me laugh and helped me calm down. I still remember when I first met him, my parents were by my side and I was just standing there while everyone else was sitting down, then he said “Please, Elsie come sit here next to me.” Oh man, I thought I was going to die, I was so nervous that I sat next to him but I began playing with my hair, I began getting itchy, I began to fix my skirt and dusting off my shoes, I began doing so much things. Then he saw that I was nervous and said “Elsie, what’s wrong, are you nervous?” and I said “Yes, just a little” so he smiled and said “Its ok, relax, there is nothing to be nervous about” that helped me to calm down and I wasn’t nervous anymore.
 

When this special someone comes to you, it's normal for you to start checking him/her out but don't start judging.

 

Have you ever heard that phrase – Don’t judge a book by its cover?

  

   This means, don't judge your partner by what you expected of him/her. Maybe to you, the woman of your dreams is suppose to have thick eyebrows and the partner God gave you has thinner eyebrows then you expected, maybe in your dreams your partner has 20/20 vision but the one God gave you wears glasses, maybe you wanted a man with a tremendous six pack and big biceps and God gave you a man fifteen pounds overweight; does this mean that God messed up and gave you the wrong partner?

 

 

Of course not! Looks can be deceiving!

 

   What counts the most is what is on the inside. Of course, appearance is also important for a woman and man of God, but in first place comes Spirituality. Don’t judge your partner by what you see and dislike, but instead look for things in him/her that you DO like. The things you like will overpower the things you don’t really like. Thin eyebrows can grow out to become thicker eyebrows, glasses can be replaced with contact lenses, fifteen pounds overweight can be transformed into a tremendous six pack and big biceps through exercise and lifting weights.

 

Look for things you like, like the character and the way he/she talks to you, their dedication in doing the work of God, the way he/she treats you, anything! Remember, whatever you dislike can always be fixed with a change of hair do, a little lifting weights, a little make -up and so on. Don’t let this bother you, put the spirituality first because this is what’s hard to find.

 

HAPPY ANNIVERSARY to my love

HAPPY ANNIVERSARY TO THE LOVE OF MY LIFE.....

Today is our 8th year anniversary and I wanted to take this moment to let my husband know how much I love him!

Leo,
I love you very much, and Thank you for all your patience with me.
It hasn't always been easy, in fact marriage has been really hard. We took forever to adapt with each other.
But we did it!
We've made it this far, and I look forward to spending the rest of my life with you.

Love always
Elsie

What can a couple do in the 'Fast of Daniel'

One of my bloggers named Lisa Gumada had an interesting question that I think all of you could benefit from as well.
Her question was: "regarding things like the Fast of Daniel, what kind of purposes can a couple do together, with the aim of growing more in their spiritual lives?"

Lisa,
Thanks for commenting. 
To answer your question, I think that in a purpose such as the Fast of Daniel. If a couple is dating they can make some sort of dating sacrifice to bless not only their spiritual life but also their relationship.

Sacrifice is always good. It hurts but always pays off in the long run. 
Sacrifices that could be done while dating are things like:
*No calling each other until the fast is over and only going out together like once a week.
*No dating but only calling each other like once a week until the fasting is over

If you want a REAL CHALLENGE and you want to go all out
*No dating or calling each other at all until the fasting is over.
Of course, don't get me wrong, if you cross by your partner in the church or in the street it doesn't mean you have to ignore them. But the whole concept is to do your sacrifice.

If a couple is married
Then maybe the two of you can seek the Holy Spirit at home together everyday throughout the Fast of Daniel.

This will help you get stronger in your primary relationship with God

I hope that answers your question Lisa

Meeting your partner, and how about that FIRST DATE

  

When God sends you your partner, it is the most amazing thing you could imagine. It is the result of your sacrifices. This is your partner! If you did everything you were supposed to, then you can be assured that this person is not going anywhere, whatever God gives, the devil cannot take away. But remember, God only protects what’s yours when you follow Him. If you decide to slack in your relationship with God and say “ohhh, now I have my partner that’s all I wanted, so now I am happy”, or “Now I can sit back and relax because my partner is not going anywhere” WRONG! if you slack, your partner will be taken from you and given to someone else more spiritual then you. You will lose out. 

   Also, it is very important to keep your pastor informed on your sentimental life . Its a MUST, because he can pray for you and with God’s direction he will direct you.

 

   When you finally meet your partner for the first time greet him/her properly, introduce yourself, don’t keep thinking or saying "This is hard to

believe" because its not. God gave you your answer, in His words it does say

“And whatever you ask in My name, that I will do, that the father may be glorified in the son. If you ask anything in My name, I will do it” John 14:13-14 (NKJ).

Realize that God says two times that whatever we ask He will do. So don’t think "This is hard to believe" because it makes God sad, it makes Him think you don’t believe in His power.

   *** Gentlemen... when you first meet your lady and all is well, ask her out on a date. A simple one to start off, just so the two of you can talk a little.

 

   Both of you need to 'Test the spirit !' you don’t know her, she doesn’t know you, so test each others spirit. How do you test the spirit??? Occasionally do something to see his/her reaction. Find out what’s their main purpose in this relationship, if it’s just for the sex after marriage or if it’s to spend the rest of your lives together happily married and having a great companion by your side. Ask your partner straight forward questions, anything that you need to know or are interested in knowing.  Do things to see their reaction and compare it to that of a woman or man of God. However he/she reacts you can multiply it by ten and that is how their reaction will be when the two of you are married.

   When on a date, ALWAYS go to well populated areas, on the first date do something very simple so the two of you can do nothing else but talk. Grab a bite to eat, go for a nice little walk in the park, something simple. Its better if the two of you don’t even share food or hold hands on the first date, it just makes it better so the two of you can talk and not be so nervous. Save the holding hands for the next date. Go out and talk, talk, talk and talk on this date, get to know everything about each other that way by the second date the two of you will feel a bit more comfortable together. In this stage, talking is everything; you have to talk as much as you can to one another. Ask questions, talk about how God made the two of you meet, talk about what you were doing in order for God to bless your sentimental life, and express how happy you are to have found this special person, avoid talking about the bible all the time concentrate on talking about yourselves because your trying to learn about each other.

   Ask many questions, as much as you can, main questions are: 

"How old are you?"

"What's your highest level of education ?"

"Tell me a little about your family?"

"What animals do you like? 

"What's your nationality?"

"What are your hobbies?"

"What are your favorite foods?"

" Can you cook?"

"When did you come to church?"

"What is your testimony, your background?"

"Were you baptized in water and with the Holy Spirit? If so then when?"

"Is there an interest in doing the work of God? and/or how far do they intend on going in the work of God?"

"Where do you work?"

"How long have you been employed there?"

"Do you evangelize?"

"Were you ever in a relationship before? if so, what went wrong?"

"Do you still have any feelings for your previous partner?"

"Do you have kids?"

"Do you want kids?"

and so on....

 

   Ask many questions. Questions on top of questions and allow your partner to ask many questions too. If any personal questions are asked, questions regarding previous relationships, don’t hesitate to answer, even if it hurts... Your current partner will end up mending that broken heart of yours, but in order to mend your broken heart you have to allow your partner into your deepest secrets. This is probably something you never spoke about to anyone, and probably planned on never entering that subject again. But for your partner, You have too!