Marry or dream of marrying?

Post copied from Mrs. Cristianes website. I found it very helpful and relevant to this blog.
Check out her blog for more on how to be a woman of God
http://www.cristianecardoso.com/en/2013/12/11/marry-or-dream-of-marrying/



I come from a time when girls still dreamed of getting married and building a family. During the engagement period, we wouldn’t just think about the wedding dress and party, but we’d take time to learn how to be a good homemaker and wife. Obviously, many of those young girls are now divorced and some don’t even believe in love anymore, but this does not mean that all are in the same situation…
Today most young people do not dream about getting married, and I don’t think it’s because they want to enjoy life or invest in a career, as many of them say… but to safeguard themselves. There are so many broken marriages, that it’s much easier not to get married and have your heart broken by a dream that faded away. However, they love watching and reading novels; they like the idea of love and fidelity; they admire long-lasting marriages.
The question is: Which one is better, to invest in a dream or to hide it not to lose it and never actually see it come true?
I find it easy to answer this question—and I believe you do too. All of us would rather invest in a dream (even if it goes wrong) than live the rest of your lives wondering what would have happened if we had tried.
The same is true of our love life. The good news is, today things are much easier and marriage should no longer be considered a shot in the dark. There is the Love Talk Show, as well as the Bulletproof Marriage book, to help you avoid problems and prepare you to live your dream.

My twin

I know this has nothing to do with "HOW TO DATE GOD'S WAY", but today is my twins birthday. And part of who I am today is because of her.





Happy Birthday!
You are the best birthday gift I could ever ask for, a life long gift that keeps giving back.

I love you so much!
But you already know that!

I love the fact that we share everything together. You are always a part of me and I love you for that. Your my other half. No one else can really say that because their not identical twins.... We share a special something that no one could understand. I'm such a part of you as you are a part of me.

Life as I know it wouldn't be the same if I didn't have you to share it with.

I love you my twinny twin twin. And I'm so glad that we share everything from our face to our birthday. It couldn't get any better than that.

Happy Birthday Mana
I Love You................

What areas are forbidden?

   In the bible tithe represents the first fruit, it is ten percent of everything that comes into your hands, it is the first thing that you give to God for Him to protect the other ninety percent that you have. In the beginning, even Adam and Eve had to give their tithe, their tithe was not to touch the tree in the middle of the Garden of Eden, but they were allowed to touch and eat the fruits from all the other trees. However, they robbed God and touched the forbidden fruit, look what happened to them. God became angry and threw them out of the Garden of Eden where everything was so perfect, all because of their disobedience. By you giving your tithe, God gives you prosperity. It is clearly stated in the bible that the tithe belongs to God and if you refrain from giving your tithe it is a sin and your financial life will be a mess/destroyed. By not giving your tithe, you are considered to be robbing God. “Bring all the tithes into the storehouse, that there may be food in My house, and try Me now in this," Says the LORD of hosts, "If I will not open for you the windows of heaven and pour out for you such blessing that there will not be room enough to receive it.” Malachi 3:10 (NKJV). In this dating relationship the tithe is your bodies.

 

  

   For the woman, the tithe is not to touch your boyfriend’s two private areas in anyway, which is from his waist down, front and back (You know the two areas, stay away from there). These two things belong to God for now until you get married. If you disobey you will suffer the consequences. Don't be dumb to rob God.

   For the men, the tithe is not to touch your girlfriends three private areas in anyway. These areas are her breasts, and from her waist down also, front and back. (You know these three areas, so stay away). Don't be foolish to try to mess with God, the consequences are fatal. It’s worth the wait, if you both are really in love then you won’t hesitate to wait a little longer to be able to touch your husband/wife anywhere you would like for as long as you would like when the two of you get married.

   Remember this is only the ten percent, there is still ninety percent you are allowed to do, you can still kiss, hug, share food and drinks, hold hands, massage each others calves and feet, touch each others face and rub each others arms, play with each others hair, talk, talk, talk ....... But no touching in the forbidden areas. When you give this ten percent of your body, God will protect the other ninety from being taken away. Obey and God will bless,

 “…Behold, to obey is better than sacrifice…” 1 Samuel 15:22          (NKJ).

 

   If you disobey you will end up loosing your partner and most importantly your salvation, which your partner isn’t worth no matter how much you love him/her. Be wise and help each other out because it’s difficult. When you have money and you have to separate your tithe its hard but if you make it a habit and remind yourself about its meaning and the blessings that will come from it, then its not a problem, you end up doing it with pleasure. Same thing with your relationship, get a custom to giving tithe in your relationship and wait for the right time to be able to do all of these things that you aren’t able to do right now. Occasionally talk about it to your partner, reminding him/her about this covenant with God so it will not be broken. If this vow is difficult for you, then pray about it and ask God to help you and give you patience and self-control.

WHY???
   Why can't we touch these areas at all?
The reason these areas can not be touched until marriage is that if these areas are touched then sex is at the door breaking in an entry. Once these areas are touched the spark between you gets heavier to an uncontrollable level, no matter how much you try to control yourself, when these areas are touched, its over. You can no longer hold back, it’s uncontrollable. That is when marriage comes in. But until then, KEEP YOUR DISTANCE!!!

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TITHE in a relationship?

  
Amen! The two of you have now been sealed into a relationship that will end in marriage if you continue doing everything the way you're supposed to.

   Now, kissing is the biggest part of your relationship. When you go out you may kiss, when you meet  up with your girlfriend/ boyfriend you may kiss and so on. Woman, after you have received your first kiss, you may now make moves to kiss your boyfriend whenever you feel like it. He will actually like it for you to make moves of your own in an effort to kiss him since in the beginning all the pressure was on him to make all the moves. But now it’s ok for you to kiss him when you feel like it, or hold his hands and so on. Try your very best to be discreet while kissing, you don’t want to kiss in the middle of the church hall with everyone looking at you. That would be disrespectful to everyone around you. You don’t want to be in front of people kissing while everyone is looking at you. It is hard to be discreet when you cannot be alone with your partner, but for now, that is how it has to be so “…sin is not lacking…” Proverbs 10:19 (NKJ). Kiss, but do not go overboard, too much of anything is not good. For now because you aren’t married yet so until then hold your emotions back a little. Kiss, but moderately, and with self control, respect and discretion.

   Respect your body for it is the temple of the Holy Spirit. In a dating relationship you must give the tithe of your body, this tithe goes on until the day the two of you get married. NO TOUCHING!!  until the two of you make a vow on the altar of God to love, respect, and cherish each other, mainly to serve and glorify God with your lives for as long as you shall both live. Tithe is very important in this relationship. This type of tithe goes until the day the two of you get married. Again,  NO TOUCHING! This is the most important thing. When you fail in this; you have lost God’s trust and will lose your partner

    Most importantly, you will loose your salvation. PAY ATTENTION! This is the main purpose of this blog. The main reason why many Christians dating have lost their partner and their salvation.

 

   When the two of you begin kissing, there is a spark between you, a spark that feels good and every inch of your body wants to go further. But, you must gain control over yourself and rebuke it from going any further than just kissing. If the two of you are kissing and you feel as if you are not capable of holding yourself any longer, then speak to your partner and refrain from kissing a little while until you can gain control over yourself again. Now is when you really have to start dating in even better populated areas. This spark becomes stronger and stronger and harder to control. This spark is called love. You are falling in love and it’s a good thing but very dangerous. Listen carefully to when your partner says ‘I think we should stop’ or if you feel you are kissing a little too much, then stop yourselves for a while then go back later. Your partner isn’t going anywhere he’s/she’s yours. Take a break from kissing every few minutes; try to talk more than you kiss.

 

Kiss but DO NOT TOUCH!

A little advise;
  Don’t worry if you don’t know how to kiss, I didn’t, neither did my sister, we never had a boyfriend before, Leo was my first just as Damien was my sisters first. As you kiss you learn. When its your time to kiss, make it your own experience. Each kiss is unique, the best thing about kissing is that you learn as you go. When a baby is born, they have to learn how to walk and talk, they aren’t born running and talking already. The same thing with you. Kissing is all about learning, you learn from each other. If your partner has been in relationships before and knows how to kiss, then that’s fine, he/she will be able to teach you. 

  Hug your partner and kiss anyhow, try different kisses. YES even French kissing. Just be careful because prolonged kissing leads to other things. Try to avoid French kissing or at least rarely do it. It is between you and your partner now, make your own thing, be unique with each other. Have fun, but just be careful for nothing wrong to happen be around people, not necessarily people you know, but be somewhere where you know you wouldn’t do anything stupid, like on a train, or in front of the house, in a park, at a game, at the mall, somewhere. Kiss but DO NOT TOUCH!

My first Kiss

  
  In my case, I was living with Leo's parents for a little while so I can get to know him. Leo did not live with his parents, he lived elsewhere. So, since I was from Massachusetts, 4 hours away, I needed somewhere to stay as I got to know Leo. I had come from MA to NY just to get to know him. So I stayed at his parents house and began working as a secretary for the church whilst I dated.

One day I was leaving church when Leo had just arrived. For some unknown reason he happened to forget to give his dad something, so he made a mission to go out of his way on his trip back. He was coming to his parents house to bring to his dad what he had supposingly forgotten to give him just fifteen minutes ago.

  I guess I was the only one who did not know Leo was going to stop by. As we got home, I sat down in front of TV and began watching a movie with a big bowl of frosted flakes cereal in my hands. Fifteen minutes later I see someone very familiar at the door, I was a little surprised asking myself “what is he doing here?” but then I realized him giving something to his dad so I said “oh, ok”. But after he gave his dad what he came to give him, he stuck around a little longer. He sat by me in the living room and began watching the movie with me and talking to me asking how I was doing. 
(Just in case you're asking "were you guys home alone?" The answer is NO....His entire family was home. His dad, mom and loving sister. His sister was in the bedroom getting ready for bed because it was getting late. His dad was also in his room getting ready for bed, and his mom was in the kitchen finishing up with dinner)
Leo and I were just chilling in the living room watching a movie and me, trying to finish up my delicious bowl of Frosted Flakes.

Then..... Leo asked me if I liked him and I said yes. I actually looked him in the eyes and said “It’s kind of hard for me not to fall in love with you when you are so sweet”.

BOOM !!!!
  Before I could finish my sentence, I received my very first kiss. He had looked me back into the eyes and went straight for the kiss without hesitating. He just went straight for it.

I'm glad he went straight for it because I was extremely shy. I couldn't see myself doing those slow motion kisses, when you know its coming. I would probably giggle my way out of it. So him going straight for it, was the right call.