P.U.S.H

I'm bringing P.U.S.H back!

P -pray
U -until
S -something
H -happens

You want to find Love - P.U.S.H
You want to be happy - P.U.S.H
You want to feel protected, loved and cared for - P.U.S.H

You would be surprised on what prayers can bring you!

Tip of the day

   Don’t slow your role, because you know have that special someone. Instead keep doing more. Don’t spend all your time with your partner that you don’t have time for God. But also don’t stay in church all day that you end up not spending time getting to know your partner better.

Find time for everything. There are 24 hours in a day, enough time for it all.  No matter how busy you are, you just need to balance it out; Have Balance.  In the Bible a wise King called King Solomon once wrote about this subject; read (Ecclesiastes 3: 1-8). By doing all of these things; If done with a sincere and true heart of a servant. Your partner will see in you a strong character, one that represents the Almighty God you serve. This will only put more of an assurance in your partners’ heart that you are of God.

 

 

 

 

Is sex before marriage the only way that the devil can trick you?

Question from one of my bloggers, and an answer by me

Hello Mrs. Elsie,

My questions are about the process of dating. There are a lot of assistants who, even after praying to God for their love lives, end up falling into a trap of the devil.

I want to know two things; after praying, how can we tell if he/she is really the one that God made especially for us? If the person is already dating their partner, is sex before marriage the only way that the devil can still trick them into messing up or are there other physical boundaries before marriage?

Thank you Mrs. Elsie :-)

Dear blogger:
1)God made someone for you, Trust in HIM. When you have the Holy Spirit, God shows you exactly who suits you. When that man/woman of God approaches you, you will know right away that this is the one. As long as you have a relationship with God, God has got your back....

2)The devil is dirty. He's always going to try and find a way to make you fall into his trap. Whether you are single, or married. He will always try and find a way. In a relationship, you have to always be on guard. When you are dating, the only things you pretty much can't do is touch each other inappropriately and have sex. So you can be absolutely SURE that those are the things the devil will tempt you with. You have to outsmart the devil!

for more info, read my other post 'KISS.....But do not touch'

Thanks for the question

I Hear you

KEEP THE QUESTIONS COMING!
        I know how it can be to want answers to something that you don't have the courage to ask.
                                                                      OR
                                   to want to ask something but your embarrassed to.

If you have a question about the dating process, please send it to me so I can answer it here on my blog. Chances are, you aren't the only one with that question, most of the time other people have that same question in the back of their head and it goes unanswered because no one steps forward and has the courage to ask.

I'm offering to help.

If I can't answer it, I'll find someone who can...!

Be bold, and Shoot me your questions below in the comment bar. If you want to keep yourself anonymous, that's fine, then send your question directly to my email: elsienleonardo@yahoo.com

whether you email me your question or write it in the comment bar below, I'll hear you, and I'll make sure you get an answer.

I'm waiting on you.............

(If you want to stay anonymous, and you email me your question, I'll put up the question on my blog and answer it, but I'll make sure to not use your name or any personal information)

I need a Man

Question from one of my bloggers and an answer by me:

I have been disappointed in the past and deep down I don't want to be hurt again, I just want to be loved. I will put my spiritual life first. If a man isn't direct with me I usually get turned off simply because I am a mature person with kids. I am beyond the silly, giggly don't know what to do or say phase. I don't even know what's love anymore

 

 

 

Dear blogger:

I understand your point completely and I agree with you. But I do want to say that love is suppose to be fun. Its suppose to allow you to be yourself, and flirty and have fun with your best friend. You can't allow yourself to be so serious to the point that you don't have any fun. 

 

I am with you when you say you want a straight forward guy or else you get turned off. I agree, that turns on any girl.

But, what if I told you that while dating, my husband put aside his seriousness to talk to me and get to know me. But, after we got married, he acted as if he already conquered what he wanted and he went back to being so serious all the time. And to me, that's a turn off because it was like he was cold towards me. All because of his seriousness. 

I didn't like that. It turned me off. But I loved him so I helped him by always talking to him and pointing out every time he would be cold towards me. Or when he would act so serious to the point that it didn't feel like we were in a relationship. It felt like we just worked together. We had lots of problems in our marriage until I realized that love is suppose to be fun. Its suppose to make you feel those butterflies in your stomach. Its suppose to allow you to be giggly and YES, even act a bit silly sometimes. Your partner is suppose to be your best friend (after God of course). After a while of helping my husband with what I called 'his flaw' he now is a whole lot better. He's still working on it, because that's just his personality. And yes, sometimes I still have to point out to him a thing here or there. But I will give him credit because he changed! Soon I won't need to point it out anymore. He'll get it on his own. Love takes work, but its an investment that pays off.

Again, I do agree with you. I think men need to Man up and Speak up. But some men could use a little help at it. However, If you find yourself having to always take the lead, then Run away from that, because we women need a MAN, not a boy.

How do I get a guy to ask me out?

 Question from one of my bloggers and my answer:

What do you do when you notice someone watching you?  When you get up close the person closes up to you. This has happened more than once to me. I don't understand men very much. I was married now I am divorced. He was unfaithful. Why are these men studying me but lack confidence to talk to me? I am just waiting for a real man with courage to come forth. I thought maturity come with age, these men are older but I don't see that. I am very easy to talk to and get along with. Why have I not been able to find love?

 

Dear reader:
Each man is different, they all have their own character and personality. For example, My man he is very serious and calm. But when we were dating or when he wanted to date me, he pushed that aside to get to know me. Not all men are like that.

Men were made with the hunting instinct, they naturally go after something they want. That comes natural to them. So I would say to you, if you notice a man watching you, or you hear he likes you. Let him come to you. If he really likes you, then whether he is a shy guy or not, he will have to man up and come up to you to ask you out or risk you slipping through his fingers. It would be his loss.

I personally don't think its right for a woman to go up to a man and say "hey, I like you, can I get your number so we can talk sometime" or " Can we go out". That's his job. If he cant find a way to put aside his shyness or, serious demeanor to get what he really wants, then he's not the man for you. That can even cause problems through out the relationship, (if you ever get into it) because he won't play his role as the man of the house. The leader of a family. That is serious stuff.



You can't walk around like this

But, if you know he really likes you, go up to him and just discreetly present yourself to him. Make friends with him, not because you think or know he likes you. I'm not saying ask him out, I'm just saying, make friends with him, let him see that your not this scary person. Do things like Go up to him every time you see him and say Hi, talk to him a bit, just to break the ice. Then you will be helping him to come up and ask you out if he likes you. If he doesn't take that step in asking you out, then he may not be that man for you.

We women, want to feel safe and protected by our man. We need to know that he's got our back, that he's gonna put his foot down when needed and show leadership. We don't say it, but we like when our man leads us. So don't stress. Do your part and God will do his.

After all, He did say "its not good for  man to be alone". 

I hope I was able to answer your question.
You know who you are

Note: Scroll all the way down to read my first couple of posts on how to find that right man of God. Check out what I did and what you can do too to find this Man God has for you.

 

What things do I need to do or know about before I get married?

Question from one of my bloggers and an answer by me

 

I wanted to find out what things I need to do or know about (doctor stuff???)before I get married? In the church ladies who will marry pastors go to the class, but there's nothing like that for girls like me.

Dear blogger,

Getting married is very exciting, I remember when I was getting married. It's a rush of so many things to do and excitement at the same time. Here is my list of things that you need to do and know about before getting married. This list is for the Bride to-be and the Groom to-be:

*Sex

You and your husband to-be must read the book called 'Act of marriage' it is a very old book. But is EXTREMELY essential to read. It's the how-to on Sex God's way.

 

 

*Know how to deal with marriage problems

you both must also read 'Bullet proof marriage' this will teach you how to deal with problems when they occur in your marriage. And how to prevent them. ( some marriage problems start right away. Some say the first year of marriage is the worst because you are still getting to know each other. My second year was the worst. I wish I had this book then. It would've saved me lots of trouble and headaches in my marriage.)

 

*Doctor's visit

The two of you should do a complete Doctor's check up. Here in America, it's not required by law anymore, but I think it's extremely necessary to do.

• Complete physical 
• HIV test. (Especially if you've been around before. You want to make sure that the two of you are coming into this relationship as healthy as possible)
• Ladies, a visit to the gynecologist. If you're a virgin, then there's not much to check, but you can discuss birth control methods, and have a Gynecologist on call for when you need it. If you're not a virgin, then go for your routine wellness exam, and to discuss birth control methods. (Keep in mind that after marriage, when you are sexually active, you have to see your GYN at least once a year for a routine check up)
• Men, go to the Urologist for a complete check up, and discuss any concerns that you may have. Including a check of hormone levels if you would like.

 

*Birth control methods

Unless you are trying to have a baby as soon as you get married, (Which I don't recommend you have a baby right away, you need to focus on the two of you getting to know each other first, before you can add a addition to the family). You must have some type of birth control method. There are numerous methods of birth control. The most common is the birth control pills and you need to start taking them at least one month before getting married and everyday in your married life until you decide to have a baby. The downside to these pills is some women have weight gains due to the pills. There are many methods (talk to your GYN or guys talk to your Urologist about your options). If you don't want to have any kids or don't want anymore kids, there is also options for that as well. (I don't recommend this option because sometimes they are irreversible).

 

*Your Wedding gown

Some ladies don't realize that they need to go after their dress as soon as they find out they are getting married. It takes weeks to find your dress and months for it to be ordered, and altered etc. Don't wait for the last minute or you will find your self without a wedding gown. Wedding gowns aren't your typical dress, they have lower cuts then usual, mostly strapless and so on. (My sister wore a strapless wedding gown and had her veil cover a bit of her shoulders. I had a low cut V-neck dress that wrapped around my neck and the back was a bit open). So be open minded on what's available, creative, and discreet at the same time.

 

*Your Bouquet

Go after your bouquet around the same time as your dress. Find out exactly what you want and find the best florist possible. Its better if its someone you know who can do a good job, or a florist that was recommended to you. These bouquets are expensive and they never get it just right. My sisters bouquet didn't come out the way she wanted it, and mines didn't either.

 

*Groom and groomsmen tuxedo's

This also takes a while because it needs to be ordered. Make sure you give yourself plenty of time for this. You have to make sure you match your bridal party, and make sure everything gets picked up days before the wedding to avoid mishaps.

 

*Rings need to be sized

Make sure the wedding rings have been sized. The last thing you want is to be wrestling to have that ring stay on your finger all day.

 

*Wife to be, you have to know how to cook and Iron

Learn how to cook. That's a must! Otherwise what are you guys going to eat. Outside food everyday is a No No. Go to my sisters blog inthekitchenwithelise.blogspot.com and learn to cook right away. Her recipes and tips along with my recipes and tips are all there. Ask questions if you need help. She will take care of you. Learn how to iron, because you will have to be ironing for not just one person, but two. You don't want your husband to be walking around with wrinkled clothes.

 

*Get married in city hall

You need to get married in the City hall about a month before getting married in church.

 

 

*Tip to the bridal glow

Eat lots fruits and vegetables for two weeks before your wedding. Your skin will glow!

and get plenty of sleep at least a week before you get married, do what ever you can to get as much sleep as possible. You'll need it.

 

Thanks for the question, I hope I was able to help and answered the questions that you had.

You know who you are.

 

 

Next question will be answered tomorrow. Make sure you visit back tomorrow for more on questions and answers.