THIS POST IS ALL ABOUT THE GENTLEMENAs soon as you begin praying and liking someone, the first thing to do is speak to your pastor let him direct you because remember his direction comes straight from God.
As you are getting into this
relationship and you have been dating your partner for a while now, more or less
about a month or two maybe three, depending on your situation, you should go
and speak to your pastor and let him know how things have been going and tell
him what you think about your partner. Is she spiritual? Is she what you’re looking
for in a woman of God? tell him everything that has been going on in your
relationship, don’t waste time, just let him know the basics, the main point on
what the two of you have been talking about. where you have been taking her
out too, and so on. Let the pastor know exactly how you feel about her. If you
think it is the appropriate time and you feel as if she is ready, ask the
pastor if this would be an appropriate time to kiss her. But if you are in
constant communication with the pastor, you won’t even need to go to the pastor
and ask when the appropriate time to kiss your girl is, he will be directing
you daily into this relationship. But don’t be anxious.
“There is a time for
everything, and a season for every activity under heaven: a time to be born and
a time to die, a time to plant and a time to uproot, a time to kill and a time
to heal, a time to tear down and a time to build, a time to weep and a time to
laugh, a time to mourn and a time to dance, a time to scatter stones and a time
to gather them, a time to embrace and a time to refrain, a time to search and a
time to give up, a time to keep and a time to throw away, a time to tear and a
time to mend, a time to be silent and a time to speak, a time to love and a
time to hate, a time for war and a time for peace.” Ecclesiastes 3:1-8
Take your time, get to
know your lady, make her comfortable to be around you and visa versa. Make sure she’s still not
nervous because imagine trying to give her a kiss when she’s still
nervous to even hold your hands.... Think about it
Use this time wisely to make your lady
comfortable, make her comfortable enough to laugh in front of you, to eat in
front of you, to stare you straight in the eyes without being shy. Be smooth
and work your way to her heart, win her over. Make her melt every time she
hears your name, be such a gentlemen that she can’t resist. In addition,
continue working with your pastor to find the appropriate time to kiss her.
Take your time, one step at a time, don’t try to rush things. Don't act all
desperate, because God does not work like that, he does not bless when you are
anxious. There is a time for everything. Communicate with your pastor and when you think the two of you are ready, ask your pastor if its the right time to kiss her. But until then work on your relationship so
the two of you aren’t nervous anymore and are comfortable with each other.
LADIES
After you meet your partner, stay in communication with your pastor and his wife, let them know how everything is going and seek more guidance, if you have any questions you may ask your pastor or his wife.
Yes, I like the way you stated 2-3 months dating period before the kissing starts.That should give you an idea if you want to continue dating or end it. The fact is, kissing is a physical attraction. To a man/woman of God physical attraction is secondary. His/her inner personality and spiritual level should come first. Remember that God put Adam to sleep before making his wife Eve. That means, you should never choose your other half based on his/her physical appearance. Of corse you should be attracted to the person, but it shouldn't be to the point that it blind folds your spiritual judgement. Like Elsie said, you should be feeling comfortable enough with the person before all the kissing takes place. And the kissing should be lightly, nothing too heavy. Remember, you trying to discover if this relationship is going somewhere the way you want it to, if this is the person you want to spend the rest of your life with. :-)))
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