Could it be that this immaturity idea is getting in my head?

A Question from one of my bloggers.
Random Angie:



A grown man licking his tongue at someone.
If that's not immature, I don't know what is!

" I also have a question in regards to when would you consider someone is ready for marriage? I'm 23 and at times I think I might be too immature for it still. I grew up an over protected child but I know I still have a lot of learning to do. And The Holy Spirit is helping me grow day by day.
Even my parents say I don't act my age. I like to laugh and joke. That's just my personality.
Yet not with my spiritually. They see the seriousness in that. My salvation is my priority.
Could it be that this immaturity idea is getting in my head?
You mentioned you and your sister were only 12 when you both began praying for your love life.
Is there a certain guide to know you are ready?
I do want to find that man that God chose for me but at times I think I might have some growing to do.
I guess just the results of being so overprotected growing up. I am praying to God to help me be more independent but nonetheless I want to hear from you."

A police officer, men of respect, just doing a little dance
in the middle of the street.
Immature!

Hello Random Angie and thanks for the question.
First let me start of by saying; Marriage takes hard work.
I don't think you could ever be perfectly ready enough for marriage. But yes, there are steps you can take to help you in the process. It depends in what country you are in, but here in Texas, U.S.A they have what is called 'Marriage course' for those who are married and for those who want to prepare for marriage. Also there is the book "Bullet proof marriage" coming out soon by Bp. Renato and Mrs. Cristiane Cardoso. This is a must read whether you are married or not. It will help prepare you for the work ahead.....

Now, lets talk about your immaturity!
Angie, I honestly believe that for you to become mature, you have to be put in a situation that will make you become mature.
Maturity can not be learned or practiced. It comes with life's experiences, it comes with responsibilities.
Time and time again, my sister and I were constantly being called immature. And this is even after we got married, because we too grew up overprotected and spoiled rotten. I remember trying so hard not to be immature and I was still immature in peoples eyes. Until I said to myself, you know what, I'm not going to be worried about what people say. I am going to do my part and have my relationship with God, and as time goes by, God will mold me.

That's exactly what happened!

Maturity comes with you having responsibilities. And as life goes by you get more and more mature. But, it would help if you take a long hard look at yourself and see what are things you can change in you to make you more of God. Like if you notice people are always talking about how loud you laugh. Then that's something you can change due to the fact that that's not being discreet as the bible mentions we must be. Ask yourself, what are responsibilities you can take and go after so you can be able to grow in maturity?

Yes.....I do think you are over thinking this maturity thing
Maturity comes through experiences Angie.
How are you going to become mature, if you don't get to learn any experiences of your own in life ??? Experiences such as marriage!

Again, Thanks for the awesome question

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GENTLEMAN.....Make a move

By this time, the two of you should have already been on a few dates and exchanged phone numbers. You should already know a lot about your partner, now its time to break the ice. Call your partner everyday if possible, ask when is the best time to call. Speak to him/her for a few minutes everyday until your next date, there is nothing wrong with calling everyday, in fact this should be done to get you two comfortable with each other. Make conversation, a dialogue with the two of you talking and not just one of you talking the whole time. Make this a habit because this is what is going to be going on everyday until the two of you get
married. Conversation helps you stay in touch with what is going on in each others life daily and it also helps you two fall in love a lot quicker. It’s almost like being on a date everyday. If you both are in the same church and you see each other everyday, then that’s ok, if you have time during the day to talk, then talk. But if your working hard and only have time to say a quick Hi, for a short time then that’s not considered talking, so you should call each other at the best time and talk for just a few more minutes. Ask how was their day, what new things did they learn from the bible, talk to your partner and tell him/her that you were thinking about them and can’t wait to see him/her, and so on. Show your excitement and interest towards them.

GENTLEMAN

this time take your lady to a better place such as the movie to see a comedy or action. Talk to her during the week and converse with her on where she would like to be taken on the next date. Ask her to prepare a little snack and take her to the park for a little picnic. Go to a simple amusement park where there are roller coaster rides or to a local fair. This time, make the move to hold her hands. Start of slow. She may probably start to giggle and become shy, but that’s a good thing as long as you are the one making the moves. Hold her hands first. Make that a routine thing to do in public. Bring her close to you and hold her hands. That's about all for now. Don't rush into things....First just hold her hands.

As always, hold the doors for her and let her go first, make her feel like a princess. Tell her how beautiful you think she is, tell her what you like about her like her hair or her eyes, her feet, her hands, her arms, her personality, the way she laughs etc, whatever you like about her, now is the time to let her know.

Dump a person just because of a difference in taste???

   The reason why we tend to First look at things in our partner that we dislike, is because we get nervous. We know that this is something that will affect us for the rest of our lives. Therefore, we start trying to protect ourselves by judging the one God chose for us.

   Don’t worry, God has everything under control. You will fall in love. Maybe the same thing happened when your partner first set eyes on you. Everything will work out just fine. God has a plan for all of us. He chose your partner for you and you for your partner. If you still feel nervous about it, pray, ask God to help you trust in Him, ask Him to help you fall in love and to stop looking at what you don’t like but to help you look at what you do like. Because physical attraction is also very important.

   As mentioned before, prayer brings the result to everything. Maybe the type of clothes your partner likes to wear is not the type of clothes you like for him/her to wear, but he/she is a sweet person and very handsome/beautiful. Are you going to dump that person just because of a difference in taste.

Of course not!

   Style is something that can always be altered but it’s not always that you can find such a sweet person full of the Holy Spirit. Later on into the relationship, pray, then little by little you can talk to your partner about it and because the two of you will be so much in love he/she will start to change just for you and it would be more of a pleasure then an obligation for your partner to do this for you. 

Learn from experience

One of my bloggers commented on my last post.
I found this to be pretty interesting. 
Please read below:

Dear Mrs Elsie

This post speaks volumes. I have always had an image of the kind of man I wanted God to bless me with. Funny thing, is that I got the exact thing, but spiritually he was not well. I was so focussed on how he should look like, instead of Who he should have inside of him.

Now I have learned to ask God for a man of God. Someone with a heart after His Own. Most importantly I have learned to seek God more than I seek a future husband! He should be my first Husband.

Thanks for this post. God bless

Posted by Lisa Gumada

Have you ever heard that phrase - Don't judge a book by its cover?

What a little make up can do

   You don’t need to tell anyone else about your deep dark secrets, but you do need to talk about it to your partner (this is assuming you spoke to God about it too). Your partner has every right to know. Don't hide anything, be honest and sincere no matter how bad it was or how much it hurts. This is not someone who is going to sit there and judge you; this is someone who is trying to find out about you to be able to make you happy. Let your partner know what your likes and dislikes are in everything, but most importantly, in a relationship. Don't be nervous, act yourself so your partner can see who you are, don’t try to be someone you are not.

 

Fat can be transformed into muscles

   When I met Leonardo I was a little nervous, it’s normal to be nervous because this is something new. However, I remembered I had to calm down and act myself so Leonardo could know the type of person I really am. I don’t think he was nervous, and if he was, he didn’t show it. He was the one that made me laugh and helped me calm down. I still remember when I first met him, my parents were by my side and I was just standing there while everyone else was sitting down, then he said “Please, Elsie come sit here next to me.” Oh man, I thought I was going to die, I was so nervous that I sat next to him but I began playing with my hair, I began getting itchy, I began to fix my skirt and dusting off my shoes, I began doing so much things. Then he saw that I was nervous and said “Elsie, what’s wrong, are you nervous?” and I said “Yes, just a little” so he smiled and said “Its ok, relax, there is nothing to be nervous about” that helped me to calm down and I wasn’t nervous anymore.
 

When this special someone comes to you, it's normal for you to start checking him/her out but don't start judging.

 

Have you ever heard that phrase – Don’t judge a book by its cover?

  

   This means, don't judge your partner by what you expected of him/her. Maybe to you, the woman of your dreams is suppose to have thick eyebrows and the partner God gave you has thinner eyebrows then you expected, maybe in your dreams your partner has 20/20 vision but the one God gave you wears glasses, maybe you wanted a man with a tremendous six pack and big biceps and God gave you a man fifteen pounds overweight; does this mean that God messed up and gave you the wrong partner?

 

 

Of course not! Looks can be deceiving!

 

   What counts the most is what is on the inside. Of course, appearance is also important for a woman and man of God, but in first place comes Spirituality. Don’t judge your partner by what you see and dislike, but instead look for things in him/her that you DO like. The things you like will overpower the things you don’t really like. Thin eyebrows can grow out to become thicker eyebrows, glasses can be replaced with contact lenses, fifteen pounds overweight can be transformed into a tremendous six pack and big biceps through exercise and lifting weights.

 

Look for things you like, like the character and the way he/she talks to you, their dedication in doing the work of God, the way he/she treats you, anything! Remember, whatever you dislike can always be fixed with a change of hair do, a little lifting weights, a little make -up and so on. Don’t let this bother you, put the spirituality first because this is what’s hard to find.

 

HAPPY ANNIVERSARY to my love

HAPPY ANNIVERSARY TO THE LOVE OF MY LIFE.....

Today is our 8th year anniversary and I wanted to take this moment to let my husband know how much I love him!

Leo,
I love you very much, and Thank you for all your patience with me.
It hasn't always been easy, in fact marriage has been really hard. We took forever to adapt with each other.
But we did it!
We've made it this far, and I look forward to spending the rest of my life with you.

Love always
Elsie