What's my complex? (2)

• Complex about weight - Others have complexes about their weight, its either I weigh too much or I weigh too little. I need to put on some weight because I am disappearing, or I need to loose weight before it becomes dangerous for my own health. "I'm too fat and nobody will love me" or "I'm too skinny  and all people see in me is bones"

Stop by tomorrow for "What's my complex? (3)?

What's my Complex?

One thing I've noticed, is that many people are hindered or held back from finding true love because of their own complexes. I have seen with my own eyes and have known people that could have been or could still be blessed in their love life but they aren’t. Not because the devil is blocking their love life but instead it is because of their own complexes that they impede God from blessing them or giving them the man or woman of their dreams. These people need to seriously (Get Rid of their complexes). If they don’t they will remain single forever and will never be able to go forward in life. In all aspects especially in their love life.

   People I have known have complexes in many different ways,  there are many different types of complexes that exist. I will name a few:

• Complex about appearance - some people’s complex is the way they look whether it is their hair, eyes, nose, lips, hands, feet, body shape, ears or anything else they can imagine. They have a general complex about the way they look. Their thought is ` No! I have nappy hair, or my hair is too short  or too thin and brittle. My eyes are too wide apart from each other or too close together. I’m too black or too white. I have a big, crooked or flat nose, my lips are too big or I have no lip its just a line. My hands and feet are so small or too big, I have no figure or I have too much of a figure. I’m too short or I’m too tall, my ears are too small or too big. My head is an awkward shape or every other complaint about their appearance imaginable.

come back tomorrow for the next complex thats out there !

24 hours in a day

   Don’t slow your role, because you know have someone. Instead keep going, doing more for God. But as necessary with all things have a balance. Don’t spend all your time with your partner that you don’t have time for God, but also don’t stay in church all day that you end up not spending time getting to know your partner better. Find time for everything. There are 24 hours in a day, enough time for it all.  No matter how busy you are, you just need to balance it out.  In the Bible a wise King called King Solomon once wrote about this subject; read (Ecclesiastes 3: 1-8). By doing all of these things your partner will see in you a strong character, one that represents the Almighty God you serve. This will only put more of an assurance in his/her heart that you are of God.

   When His light shines in you, it is impossible to be covered. “You are the light of the world. A city that is set on a hill cannot be hidden. Nor do they light a lamp and put it under a basket, but on a lamp stand, and it gives light to all who are in the house. Let your light so shine before men, that they may see your good works and glorify your father in heaven.” Matthew 5: 14 – 16 (NKJ). By seeing your goodness or good deeds, your partner will praise God for having you. But in everything you do, do all things for God and not for men. “Serve wholeheartedly, as if you were serving the Lord, not men,” Ephesians 6:7 (NIV).

   Do these things yes because they are necessary, but not to show off to men what you are doing and supposedly how great of a person you are. Not to show your pastor, your friend, your current girlfriend or boyfriend not to show to anyone, for credit. The credit of anyone in this world is not worthed, compared to the rewards of God. Doing that for physical praise is pride, and pride is not of God, so be careful. Do it with a sincere heart of a humble and true servant who wants to glorify God in Spirit and in Truth. 

How to understand women, especially when she's on her period?

Know when to leave your girl alone, and what to do in that time of the month for your girlfriend or wife.

Most women are sweet, loving, caring, tough, hard working and more. But there is always going to be one week out of 4 that you need to know when to leave your girl alone. You need to know exactly what to do and how to react to avoid arguments or her mood changes.

A women's Menstrual cycle, also know as period is a phase in a women's life that causes a change in the female reproductive system. Her hormones are all over the place. While this change occurs, to most women, it causes agonizing pains, stomach cramps and so much more. Although men will never be able to understand the pain a woman goes through on her period, you can still be understanding about it and try to put yourself in her shoes. Annoying enough, some men tend to think their girlfriend/wife is a bit exaggerative or is calling for attention when she is referring to her stomach cramps. Although, each woman is different and the symptoms may vary for each woman.

Here is a list of what your woman goes through on that time of the month. Maybe this will help you put yourself in her shoes:
*AGONIZING STOMACH CRAMPS
(some woman may just feel  annoying cramps and slight pain, whilst most woman feel excruciating, paralyzing stomach punches)
*NAUSEA
(Some women throw up, whilst others have a change in appetite)
*HEAD ACHES
*SORE BODY
(Some women feel sore ALL over, whilst others feel sore in certain areas)
*FATIGUE
(At this time of the month, women are loosing blood, and lots of it. Think of it as when you have to give blood. If you loose too much blood you feel faint or even have to be asked to lay down for a bit)
*BREAST TENDERNESS
(A woman's body is going through changes. Breast tenderness is the most common pain felt by women in this time of the month)

These are just a few common things women go through on their period. Most woman go through this same thing every day for about a week. If you put yourself in a woman's shoes, you'll understand why she gets so cranky, mad, annoyed, exhausted, tired, and sometimes down. The first day of her period is always the worst. While all this is going on, it's really hard to grab a hold of yourself. It's possible, but extremely hard. That's why you men can help.

Things to do for the woman in your life while she's on her period:
*BUY HER CHOCOLATE
(Although chocolate is not the best thing to eat while a woman is on her period, caffeine causes more cramps. But no woman wants to hear that....Give her, her chocolate)
*BUY HER A TUB OF HER FAVORITE ICE-CREAM
(Just get it for her! And don't even think about reminding her to watch the calories)
*WHAT EVER SHE IS DOING, TRY AND HELP
(I know you can't be there at work with her, or you can't be with her the whole time. But do as much as you can to take the load of her shoulders. You aren't the one with pain and feeling lousy, she is. Do things like, wash the dishes, carry heavy things for her, see what you can help her with, even if it is a part of her job)
* OFFER TO BUY LUNCH/DINNER
(Don't be insensitive. Buy Lunch/ Dinner for you and her. That way she doesn't have to cook while she's feeling lousy. If you know how to cook, then now is the time to get in the kitchen. Remember, get something that she feels like eating. Her appetite may be a bit off)
*SHE NEEDS TIME TO SLOUCH ON THE COUCH
(Encourage her to leave work and go straight home, make sure she has everything she needs to just slouch around on the couch. Watching her favorite TV shows and eating her chocolates and ice-cream)
*SHE MAY NEED PADS
(Yes, she may need pads. Sometimes you will need to run a stop to the store and get her some. Don't worry, most men have to end up buying pads for their girl at least once)
*PAIN KILLERS
(If she's in too much pain, give her some Motrin or Advil. Most women will deny the pills because she thinks she can take the pain. But try to convince her to take one or two)
*BE THERE FOR HER
(Her hormones are all over the place. A hug now and then means a whole lot. A kiss says a lot. Cuddling up couldn't feel better then it would at this time)
*SHE NEEDS TIME TO HERSELF
(Don't be too needy, she can use some time alone. That helps her understand herself and de-stress. That way she won't blow off on every one that crosses her path)

Get to know your woman, even if you still dating. Find out what you can do to help her. I advise you to find these things out before her period comes, so when it comes (Which it will, every month for years and years, so get use to it) you'll know exactly what to do and how to handle it.

Or even if you don't have a girlfriend yet. Now you know how to tell when a woman is on her period and what she is going through, so just help her out or leave her alone.

Women, I advise you to send this post to your man. That way he can learn what you need and when you need it.

Men, let me know if this was helpful to you!
Ladies, let me know if I'm missing anything!

BREAKING NEWS...Treat yourself to a Make-Over (Men)

Men need Make-Over's too. You need to look and feel at your best. Some men only walk around with Jeans, T-Shirt and sneakers everyday. That gets old!

Have you ever heard the saying 'Dress for the occasion'? Every where you go is a different occasion. If you are going to church, that calls for formal wear. Going out with friends, then yes....Wear your jeans. My point is; Men need to look good too. No woman wants a man with a manicure so overdue, that his cuticles are so long they overlap his actual nail. Women also don't want a man that dresses poorly and wears jeans everywhere he goes. Women want men that is masculine but also takes care of himself.

Yes men, you too could treat yourself to a Make-over, you'll be surprised how relaxing this will all be for you. These are great methods to relieve stress as well. Whether you are single, dating or married. Try them out!

Men treat yourself to a Make-Over:

* Take a day off of work.

(Work is not the only thing that matters. There are other things out there worth your attention too)

* Go to a spa for a massage

(You'll be surprised at how many men go to the spa for a massage)

* Get your nails done

(Every nail salon has men manicure and pedicure. Men have nails too, and your cuticles grow just as much as women's do. I know tons of men who get their nails done. Tons...)

*Buy cologne and WEAR it.
(So many men don't wear cologne, one thing that draws a women's attention, is a man that smells good)

*Get that unibrow taken care of

(I am against men doing their eyebrows. Most of the times when they do it, it looks to feminine. But, ...boy oh boy... Some guys have one connected eyebrow. That's not OK. Go to the salon and have them just remove the unibrow. Nothing more)

* Find out what your occasions are, and dress for the occasion.

(Quit wearing jeans and sneakers everywhere. Change it up a bit, and you'll surprise yourself on how you look)

* Then go out for a nice night out with your girlfriend or on a romantic date with your wife. 

This Make-Over will feel rejuvenating, relaxing and make you feel good about yourself. You may think these ideas are absurd. Or that no men do these things. But you are so wrong. To the contrary most men do at least three or four things from this list on the regular. So you won't be the only one. Believe me!

For tips on how to take care of yourself properly and what to wear

go to  http://hairfashionandbeauty.blogspot.com/

Appearance is important! To you and to those around you.

If you invest in yourself every morning before you step out the house, you'll look great and feel great.

When you don't treat yourself right, or fix yourself up, people can tell, it's written all over you. By the clothes you just found hanging around the room and just threw on. It's noticeable!

Again, Appearance is important! To you and to those around you.

Treat yourself to a Make-over (Women)

Some times you just need to treat yourself to a Make-Over.

In our day to day life we go through so much stress, something makes us mad, or sad. We get tired, feel exhausted, and not to mention how miserable we feel during our menstrual cycle. And sometimes all these day to day stresses cause us to have low self-esteem.

For you to be happy with your partner, you need to first be happy with yourself.
If you are single or dating, even if you are married
Treat yourself to a Make-Over:
* Take a day off just for you
* Go to a spa for a relaxing massage
* Make an appointment to get your hair done (try something new)
* Have a professional make -up artist do your make-up
* Get your nails done
* Buy a new dress
* Then go out for a nice night out on the town with a couple of friends (leave the kids with a baby sitter)

You'll see how rejuvenating this feels. How relaxed and good you'll feel about yourself. You'll see how beautiful you are inside, but also on the outside. You just need to give yourself the investment and make an effort to be and feel beautiful before you walk out the door every morning. If you say, "I'm broke, I can't afford to have a Make-Over" that's not true.

Free version to Treat yourself to a Make-Over:
* Take a day off just for you
* You tube 'How to do a facial' and 'How to do a leg massage' These are two massages you can do on yourself and for free
* Do your own hair. Take the time to treat and condition your hair properly and do a different hair style
* You tube video's on 'How to properly apply make-up' and learn how to do your own make-up
* Do your own pedicure and manicure at home......YES Paint your nails, clear is not an option!
* Choose out your best dress in the closet
* Prepare a nice dinner at home and invite a couple of close friends over to have girls talk and sing karaoke

For tips on how to take care of your hair, do your make-up and dress fashionably, go to  http://hairfashionandbeauty.blogspot.com/

Appearance is important! To you and to those around you.
If you invest in yourself every morning before you step out the house, you'll look beautiful and you'll feel like a million bucks. Plus, those around you won't stop commenting on how beautiful you look. Sometimes what holds a woman back from getting the right man, is her low self-esteem. If you don't treat yourself right and don't consider yourself to be a beautiful jewel, how will any man see that in you?

When you don't treat yourself right, or fix yourself up, people can tell, it's written all over you. By your same boring hairstyle everyday, by the clothes you just found hanging around the room and just threw on. You never wear make up, you never fix your nails, much less paint them. It's noticeable!
Again, Appearance is important! To you and to those around you.

In search of the right person...by Renato Cardoso

Taken from www.renatocardoso.com author of 'Bullet-proof marriage' I loved this post, and found it would be helpful to you.
This website has some good incites on dating and on marriage. Check it out...

In search of the right person

There are so many myths and lies in the world of relationships that it’s no wonder people have suffered so much in this area. One of these myths is the idea of the “right person.”

“Why are you still single?”
“I haven’t found the right person yet.”
Ring a bell?
The idea that there is only one right person in the world which perfectly fits with another is the reason why many people are still single, while others are unhappy in their marriage.
Single people dream of the person that will fulfill all the requirements on the list they idealized.
Married people fight a battle against their doubts, which question if they married the right person. After all, they have so many problems.
This idea, however, is not plausible mathematically, logically, or spiritually.
Mathematically the numbers add up. Statistics show that there are more single women than men. If we were to compare the number of single men to single women in the world, presuming that your perfect match is somewhere out there, someone’s going to be alone, like in musical chairs.
Logically it doesn’t make any sense. If a newlywed wife loses her husband in an accident and becomes a widow, does that mean that now there’s no point in her looking for anyone else to marry because the “right person,” the only one who could make her happy, died?
Spiritually there’s no biblical basis to this. If Eve was the “right person” for Adam then God made a mistake. It’s interesting that when God created woman, he described her as a “helper comparable to him.”
When the apostle Paul mentioned if a Christian woman becomes a widow, he said “she is at liberty to be married to whom she wishes, only in the Lord.” (1 Corinthians 7:39) That is to say, not only does she get a second chance but she is also free and responsible to make her own choice — as long as the person is of the same faith. So where does that idea that there is only one right person in the world and the fantasy that God is the one who chooses the person we’re going to marry?
The truth is that we’re responsible for our choices. God gave us intelligence to identify who is compatible and who is not. And He institutes rules to produce a happy relationship. Break them, and there isn’t a “right” person in the world that will make you happy. The key to a happy marriage is not to find the right person; it’s to do the right things.
Do the right things to find a person who is compatible with you.

• Expand your circle of friends
• Choose with your head and not your heart
• Allow yourself to begin a friendship
• If things go well, begin to date with the intention of getting to know the person better (not to go to bed with them)
• If when you get to know everything about the person and see living with them for the rest of your life would not work, nip the relationship in the bud, with no remorse.
• If you see the fundamental qualities you need, then move forward to the engagement and then marriage

It is not magic, luck or a miracle. It is an act of intelligence.

P.S Of course, if you already read Bullet-Proof marriage, you already know this.