Kiss but DO NOT TOUCH!

A little advise;
  Don’t worry if you don’t know how to kiss, I didn’t, neither did my sister, we never had a boyfriend before, Leo was my first just as Damien was my sisters first. As you kiss you learn. When its your time to kiss, make it your own experience. Each kiss is unique, the best thing about kissing is that you learn as you go. When a baby is born, they have to learn how to walk and talk, they aren’t born running and talking already. The same thing with you. Kissing is all about learning, you learn from each other. If your partner has been in relationships before and knows how to kiss, then that’s fine, he/she will be able to teach you. 

  Hug your partner and kiss anyhow, try different kisses. YES even French kissing. Just be careful because prolonged kissing leads to other things. Try to avoid French kissing or at least rarely do it. It is between you and your partner now, make your own thing, be unique with each other. Have fun, but just be careful for nothing wrong to happen be around people, not necessarily people you know, but be somewhere where you know you wouldn’t do anything stupid, like on a train, or in front of the house, in a park, at a game, at the mall, somewhere. Kiss but DO NOT TOUCH!

My first Kiss

  
  In my case, I was living with Leo's parents for a little while so I can get to know him. Leo did not live with his parents, he lived elsewhere. So, since I was from Massachusetts, 4 hours away, I needed somewhere to stay as I got to know Leo. I had come from MA to NY just to get to know him. So I stayed at his parents house and began working as a secretary for the church whilst I dated.

One day I was leaving church when Leo had just arrived. For some unknown reason he happened to forget to give his dad something, so he made a mission to go out of his way on his trip back. He was coming to his parents house to bring to his dad what he had supposingly forgotten to give him just fifteen minutes ago.

  I guess I was the only one who did not know Leo was going to stop by. As we got home, I sat down in front of TV and began watching a movie with a big bowl of frosted flakes cereal in my hands. Fifteen minutes later I see someone very familiar at the door, I was a little surprised asking myself “what is he doing here?” but then I realized him giving something to his dad so I said “oh, ok”. But after he gave his dad what he came to give him, he stuck around a little longer. He sat by me in the living room and began watching the movie with me and talking to me asking how I was doing. 
(Just in case you're asking "were you guys home alone?" The answer is NO....His entire family was home. His dad, mom and loving sister. His sister was in the bedroom getting ready for bed because it was getting late. His dad was also in his room getting ready for bed, and his mom was in the kitchen finishing up with dinner)
Leo and I were just chilling in the living room watching a movie and me, trying to finish up my delicious bowl of Frosted Flakes.

Then..... Leo asked me if I liked him and I said yes. I actually looked him in the eyes and said “It’s kind of hard for me not to fall in love with you when you are so sweet”.

BOOM !!!!
  Before I could finish my sentence, I received my very first kiss. He had looked me back into the eyes and went straight for the kiss without hesitating. He just went straight for it.

I'm glad he went straight for it because I was extremely shy. I couldn't see myself doing those slow motion kisses, when you know its coming. I would probably giggle my way out of it. So him going straight for it, was the right call.

 

Now can we KISS ???

 

To be able to kiss your partner is something very special.

 

   Gentlemen, when you kiss your lady, this is a seal of your relationship, it tells your lady that you’re in love with her and you’ve truly found your soul mate. This is why you cannot rush things, you can’t just kiss her because you think her lips are beautiful or because you want to experiment kissing. NO! Until this point you were only talking, when you kiss, then it seals this relationship as boyfriend/girlfriend, as sex is a seal of marriage. Once the two of you have kissed you are officially dating and are boyfriend/girlfriend, before you kiss you aren’t boyfriend/girlfriend, you are just friends getting to know each other. After you have kissed, you are boyfriend/girlfriend seeking a lifetime relationship that will be sealed through marriage. So, don’t rush things. Gentlemen, when you’ve spoken to your pastor and your pastor gave you the ok to kiss your girl, then that means its ok by God for you to kiss your girl, in this way it wouldn’t be considered a sin.

   The reason why we’re addressing all the moves to the gentlemen, such as holding hands and especially kissing is because this job is for the man, for a woman to take lead and grab her partners hands when going out for the first time is too bold and should be avoided. Especially kissing, a woman doesn’t just go and kiss her partner on the lips first, that’s a no, no. The gentleman being a man is the one to make that move, this is part of his masculinity, his ego. So be patient, pray and wait on him also, Both of you should keep your pastor informed on your relationship at all times.

 

    Gentlemen when you are certain that you like this woman and you intend to take things further in this relationship, then you can kiss but it is always best to inform your pastor of your plans just to avoid the devils traps. After that is when you make your move. Find the right time to kiss her when there are not much people around. It can be on your next date or if you can find a way to think of something you could do to see her that day then do it. If you want, you can wait until the next date and kiss her hand to see her reaction first before you actually kiss her lips...

Just avoid being completely alone. Make sure there are at least a few people around to prevent the two of you from sinning.

Couldnt have been said better.....My BEAUTIFUL Mom

THIS COMMENT WAS DONE BY MY BEAUTIFUL MOM ON MY LAST POST. I CAN COMPLETELY AGREE WITH IT.

 

Maria F Borba (Elsie)

Yes, I like the way you stated 2-3 months dating period before the kissing starts.That should give you an idea if you want to continue dating or end it. The fact is, kissing is a physical attraction. To a man/woman of God physical attraction is secondary. His/her inner personality and spiritual level should come first. Remember that God put Adam to sleep before making his wife Eve. That means, you should never choose your other half based on his/her physical appearance. Of corse you should be attracted to the person, but it shouldn't be to the point that it blind folds your spiritual judgement. Like Elsie said, you should be feeling comfortable enough with the person before all the kissing takes place. And the kissing should be lightly, nothing too heavy. Remember, you trying to discover if this relationship is going somewhere the way you want it to, if this is the person you want to spend the rest of your life with. :-)))

 

How to know when she's ready for a KISS ?

THIS POST IS ALL ABOUT THE GENTLEMEN
As soon as you begin praying and liking someone, the first thing to do is speak to your pastor let him direct you because remember his direction comes straight from God.

As you are getting into this relationship and you have been dating your partner for a while now, more or less about a month or two maybe three, depending on your situation, you should go and speak to your pastor and let him know how things have been going and tell him what you think about your partner. Is she spiritual? Is she what you’re looking for in a woman of God? tell him everything that has been going on in your relationship, don’t waste time, just let him know the basics, the main point on what the two of you have been talking about. where you have been taking her out too, and so on. Let the pastor know exactly how you feel about her. If you think it is the appropriate time and you feel as if she is ready, ask the pastor if this would be an appropriate time to kiss her. But if you are in constant communication with the pastor, you won’t even need to go to the pastor and ask when the appropriate time to kiss your girl is, he will be directing you daily into this relationship. But don’t be anxious.

   “There is a time for everything, and a season for every activity under heaven: a time to be born and a time to die, a time to plant and a time to uproot, a time to kill and a time to heal, a time to tear down and a time to build, a time to weep and a time to laugh, a time to mourn and a time to dance, a time to scatter stones and a time to gather them, a time to embrace and a time to refrain, a time to search and a time to give up, a time to keep and a time to throw away, a time to tear and a time to mend, a time to be silent and a time to speak, a time to love and a time to hate, a time for war and a time for peace.” Ecclesiastes 3:1-8

Take your time, get to know your lady, make her comfortable to be around you and visa versa. Make sure she’s still not nervous because imagine trying to give her a kiss when she’s still nervous to even hold your hands.... Think about it

 

Use this time wisely to make your lady comfortable, make her comfortable enough to laugh in front of you, to eat in front of you, to stare you straight in the eyes without being shy. Be smooth and work your way to her heart, win her over. Make her melt every time she hears your name, be such a gentlemen that she can’t resist. In addition, continue working with your pastor to find the appropriate time to kiss her.

 

Take your time, one step at a time, don’t try to rush things. Don't act all desperate, because God does not work like that, he does not bless when you are anxious. There is a time for everything. Communicate with your pastor and when you think the two of you are ready, ask your pastor if its the right time to kiss her. But until then work on your relationship so the two of you aren’t nervous anymore and are comfortable with each other.

 

Your pastor or bishop should always be involved in your relationship, from the beginning. After God, he should have been the first to know that you have been praying for God to bless your sentimental life. And to know that you are looking for someone.

LADIES

After you meet your partner, stay in communication with your pastor and his wife, let them know how everything is going and seek more guidance, if you have any questions you may ask your pastor or his  wife.

Is it OK for ladies to show interest on a date?

I have another question from one of my bloggers:
Is it wrong to kiss when dating?

My answer:
No, it is not wrong to kiss when dating. But there are guidelines to follow when kissing. Also, there has to be a purpose to the kissing. All of the details about KISSSING while dating will be in a post coming soon. So please keep coming back and be on a look out for it.
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    Ladies, talk to your partner. Tell him everything you like about him and say it with interest to show him you mean it. Enjoy your date, have fun and get to know a lot more about each other. When the date is over, gentlemen, if possible walk your lady to the train station or take her home but that's it. Later on that day or the next day when you call each other, talk about your date and how much you enjoyed it. What was your best part of the date? Ask your partner what was their best part of the date? Talk and show your interest for the next date. Don’t forget to pray and to still tied up all evil around you and your partner. Never stop praying, always ask God for his protection over the two of you. In fact before and after each date you should always pray together and ask God to direct your date so everything can go better then expected, so God can protect the two of you from sin so nothing wrong can happen.

   Never go somewhere where there are few people, always be surrounded by people so nothing wrong can be done between the two of you (don’t trust your flesh). You don’t necessarily have to be around people you know, but make sure people are around. This is to prevent problems for your relationship remember: “.....to obey is better than sacrifice.....For rebellion is as the sin of witchcraft and stubbornness is as iniquity and idolatry…” 1 Samuel 15:22-23 (NKJ).

 

    Keep doing this, keep going on these kinds of dates, make it a habit. Call each other everyday if possible, go on fun dates in well populated areas, hold hands until you get used to it. Ladies after your partner makes the first move on holding your hands, its ok for you to do it after, on the next dates whenever you feel like it. It is just more appropriate for him to do the first moves since he is the gentleman. Just show him your interested and let him do the rest, this way he will feel confident enough to make the needed moves. This is a typical date and should stay this way until further notice.

   On the mean time, enjoy each other’s company by talking and having fun getting to know your partner. See if there are still things you do not know about each other and find out, keep talking and asking questions, there is always something new to learn about in your partner everyday.

 

  

Could it be that this immaturity idea is getting in my head?

A Question from one of my bloggers.
Random Angie:



A grown man licking his tongue at someone.
If that's not immature, I don't know what is!

" I also have a question in regards to when would you consider someone is ready for marriage? I'm 23 and at times I think I might be too immature for it still. I grew up an over protected child but I know I still have a lot of learning to do. And The Holy Spirit is helping me grow day by day.
Even my parents say I don't act my age. I like to laugh and joke. That's just my personality.
Yet not with my spiritually. They see the seriousness in that. My salvation is my priority.
Could it be that this immaturity idea is getting in my head?
You mentioned you and your sister were only 12 when you both began praying for your love life.
Is there a certain guide to know you are ready?
I do want to find that man that God chose for me but at times I think I might have some growing to do.
I guess just the results of being so overprotected growing up. I am praying to God to help me be more independent but nonetheless I want to hear from you."

A police officer, men of respect, just doing a little dance
in the middle of the street.
Immature!

Hello Random Angie and thanks for the question.
First let me start of by saying; Marriage takes hard work.
I don't think you could ever be perfectly ready enough for marriage. But yes, there are steps you can take to help you in the process. It depends in what country you are in, but here in Texas, U.S.A they have what is called 'Marriage course' for those who are married and for those who want to prepare for marriage. Also there is the book "Bullet proof marriage" coming out soon by Bp. Renato and Mrs. Cristiane Cardoso. This is a must read whether you are married or not. It will help prepare you for the work ahead.....

Now, lets talk about your immaturity!
Angie, I honestly believe that for you to become mature, you have to be put in a situation that will make you become mature.
Maturity can not be learned or practiced. It comes with life's experiences, it comes with responsibilities.
Time and time again, my sister and I were constantly being called immature. And this is even after we got married, because we too grew up overprotected and spoiled rotten. I remember trying so hard not to be immature and I was still immature in peoples eyes. Until I said to myself, you know what, I'm not going to be worried about what people say. I am going to do my part and have my relationship with God, and as time goes by, God will mold me.

That's exactly what happened!

Maturity comes with you having responsibilities. And as life goes by you get more and more mature. But, it would help if you take a long hard look at yourself and see what are things you can change in you to make you more of God. Like if you notice people are always talking about how loud you laugh. Then that's something you can change due to the fact that that's not being discreet as the bible mentions we must be. Ask yourself, what are responsibilities you can take and go after so you can be able to grow in maturity?

Yes.....I do think you are over thinking this maturity thing
Maturity comes through experiences Angie.
How are you going to become mature, if you don't get to learn any experiences of your own in life ??? Experiences such as marriage!

Again, Thanks for the awesome question