When God sends you your partner, it is
the most amazing thing you could imagine. It is the result of your sacrifices.
This is your partner! If you did everything you were supposed to, then you can be
assured that this person is not going anywhere, whatever God gives, the devil
cannot take away. But remember, God only protects what’s yours when you follow
Him. If you decide to slack in your relationship with God and say “ohhh, now I
have my partner that’s all I wanted, so now I am happy”, or “Now I can sit back
and relax because my partner is not going anywhere” WRONG! if you slack, your
partner will be taken from you and given to someone else more spiritual then you. You will lose out.
Also, it is very important to keep your pastor informed on your
sentimental life . Its a MUST, because he can pray for you and with God’s direction he will
direct you.
When you finally meet your partner for the first time greet him/her
properly, introduce yourself, don’t keep thinking or saying "This is hard to
believe" because its not. God gave you your answer, in His words it does say
“And whatever you ask in My name, that I will do, that the father may
be glorified in the son. If you ask anything in My name, I will do it” John
14:13-14 (NKJ).
Realize that God says two times
that whatever we ask He will do. So don’t think "This is hard to believe" because it
makes God sad, it makes Him think you don’t believe in His power.
*** Gentlemen... when you
first meet your lady and all is well, ask her out on a date. A simple one to
start off, just so the two of you can talk a little.
Both of you need to 'Test the spirit !' you don’t
know her, she doesn’t know you, so test each others spirit. How do you test the spirit??? Occasionally do
something to see his/her reaction. Find out what’s their main purpose in this
relationship, if it’s just for the sex after marriage or if it’s to spend the
rest of your lives together happily married and having a great companion by
your side. Ask your partner straight forward questions, anything that you need to
know or are interested in knowing. Do
things to see their reaction and compare it to that of a woman or man of God.
However he/she reacts you can multiply it by ten and that is how their
reaction will be when the two of you are married.
When on a date, ALWAYS go to well
populated areas, on the first date do something very simple so the two of you
can do nothing else but talk. Grab a bite to eat, go for a nice little walk in
the park, something simple. Its better if the two of you don’t even share food
or hold hands on the first date, it just makes it better so the two of you can
talk and not be so nervous. Save the holding hands for the next date. Go out
and talk, talk, talk and talk on this date, get to know everything about each
other that way by the second date the two of you will feel a bit more
comfortable together. In this stage, talking is everything; you have to talk as
much as you can to one another. Ask questions, talk about how God made the two
of you meet, talk about what you were doing in order for God to
bless your sentimental life, and express how happy you are to have found this
special person, avoid talking about the bible all the time concentrate on talking
about yourselves because your trying to learn about each other.
Ask many questions, as much as you can, main questions are:
"How old are you?"
"What's your highest
level of education ?"
"Tell me a little about your family?"
"What animals do you like?
"What's your nationality?"
"What are your hobbies?"
"What are your favorite foods?"
" Can you cook?"
"When did you come to church?"
"What is your testimony, your background?"
"Were you baptized in water and with the Holy Spirit? If so then when?"
"Is there an interest in doing the work of God? and/or how far do they
intend on going in the work of God?"
"Where do you work?"
"How long have you been employed there?"
"Do you
evangelize?"
"Were you ever in a relationship before? if so, what
went wrong?"
"Do you still have any feelings for your previous partner?"
"Do you have kids?"
"Do you want kids?"
and so on....
Ask many questions. Questions on top of questions and allow your partner to ask many
questions too. If any personal questions are asked, questions regarding previous relationships, don’t hesitate to answer, even if it
hurts... Your current partner will end up mending that broken heart of yours, but in order to
mend your broken heart you have to allow your partner into your deepest secrets. This is probably something you never spoke about to anyone, and probably planned on
never entering that subject again. But for your partner, You have too!
