What things do I need to do or know about before I get married?

Question from one of my bloggers and an answer by me

 

I wanted to find out what things I need to do or know about (doctor stuff???)before I get married? In the church ladies who will marry pastors go to the class, but there's nothing like that for girls like me.

Dear blogger,

Getting married is very exciting, I remember when I was getting married. It's a rush of so many things to do and excitement at the same time. Here is my list of things that you need to do and know about before getting married. This list is for the Bride to-be and the Groom to-be:

*Sex

You and your husband to-be must read the book called 'Act of marriage' it is a very old book. But is EXTREMELY essential to read. It's the how-to on Sex God's way.

 

 

*Know how to deal with marriage problems

you both must also read 'Bullet proof marriage' this will teach you how to deal with problems when they occur in your marriage. And how to prevent them. ( some marriage problems start right away. Some say the first year of marriage is the worst because you are still getting to know each other. My second year was the worst. I wish I had this book then. It would've saved me lots of trouble and headaches in my marriage.)

 

*Doctor's visit

The two of you should do a complete Doctor's check up. Here in America, it's not required by law anymore, but I think it's extremely necessary to do.

• Complete physical 
• HIV test. (Especially if you've been around before. You want to make sure that the two of you are coming into this relationship as healthy as possible)
• Ladies, a visit to the gynecologist. If you're a virgin, then there's not much to check, but you can discuss birth control methods, and have a Gynecologist on call for when you need it. If you're not a virgin, then go for your routine wellness exam, and to discuss birth control methods. (Keep in mind that after marriage, when you are sexually active, you have to see your GYN at least once a year for a routine check up)
• Men, go to the Urologist for a complete check up, and discuss any concerns that you may have. Including a check of hormone levels if you would like.

 

*Birth control methods

Unless you are trying to have a baby as soon as you get married, (Which I don't recommend you have a baby right away, you need to focus on the two of you getting to know each other first, before you can add a addition to the family). You must have some type of birth control method. There are numerous methods of birth control. The most common is the birth control pills and you need to start taking them at least one month before getting married and everyday in your married life until you decide to have a baby. The downside to these pills is some women have weight gains due to the pills. There are many methods (talk to your GYN or guys talk to your Urologist about your options). If you don't want to have any kids or don't want anymore kids, there is also options for that as well. (I don't recommend this option because sometimes they are irreversible).

 

*Your Wedding gown

Some ladies don't realize that they need to go after their dress as soon as they find out they are getting married. It takes weeks to find your dress and months for it to be ordered, and altered etc. Don't wait for the last minute or you will find your self without a wedding gown. Wedding gowns aren't your typical dress, they have lower cuts then usual, mostly strapless and so on. (My sister wore a strapless wedding gown and had her veil cover a bit of her shoulders. I had a low cut V-neck dress that wrapped around my neck and the back was a bit open). So be open minded on what's available, creative, and discreet at the same time.

 

*Your Bouquet

Go after your bouquet around the same time as your dress. Find out exactly what you want and find the best florist possible. Its better if its someone you know who can do a good job, or a florist that was recommended to you. These bouquets are expensive and they never get it just right. My sisters bouquet didn't come out the way she wanted it, and mines didn't either.

 

*Groom and groomsmen tuxedo's

This also takes a while because it needs to be ordered. Make sure you give yourself plenty of time for this. You have to make sure you match your bridal party, and make sure everything gets picked up days before the wedding to avoid mishaps.

 

*Rings need to be sized

Make sure the wedding rings have been sized. The last thing you want is to be wrestling to have that ring stay on your finger all day.

 

*Wife to be, you have to know how to cook and Iron

Learn how to cook. That's a must! Otherwise what are you guys going to eat. Outside food everyday is a No No. Go to my sisters blog inthekitchenwithelise.blogspot.com and learn to cook right away. Her recipes and tips along with my recipes and tips are all there. Ask questions if you need help. She will take care of you. Learn how to iron, because you will have to be ironing for not just one person, but two. You don't want your husband to be walking around with wrinkled clothes.

 

*Get married in city hall

You need to get married in the City hall about a month before getting married in church.

 

 

*Tip to the bridal glow

Eat lots fruits and vegetables for two weeks before your wedding. Your skin will glow!

and get plenty of sleep at least a week before you get married, do what ever you can to get as much sleep as possible. You'll need it.

 

Thanks for the question, I hope I was able to help and answered the questions that you had.

You know who you are.

 

 

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