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TITHE in a relationship?

  
Amen! The two of you have now been sealed into a relationship that will end in marriage if you continue doing everything the way you're supposed to.

   Now, kissing is the biggest part of your relationship. When you go out you may kiss, when you meet  up with your girlfriend/ boyfriend you may kiss and so on. Woman, after you have received your first kiss, you may now make moves to kiss your boyfriend whenever you feel like it. He will actually like it for you to make moves of your own in an effort to kiss him since in the beginning all the pressure was on him to make all the moves. But now it’s ok for you to kiss him when you feel like it, or hold his hands and so on. Try your very best to be discreet while kissing, you don’t want to kiss in the middle of the church hall with everyone looking at you. That would be disrespectful to everyone around you. You don’t want to be in front of people kissing while everyone is looking at you. It is hard to be discreet when you cannot be alone with your partner, but for now, that is how it has to be so “…sin is not lacking…” Proverbs 10:19 (NKJ). Kiss, but do not go overboard, too much of anything is not good. For now because you aren’t married yet so until then hold your emotions back a little. Kiss, but moderately, and with self control, respect and discretion.

   Respect your body for it is the temple of the Holy Spirit. In a dating relationship you must give the tithe of your body, this tithe goes on until the day the two of you get married. NO TOUCHING!!  until the two of you make a vow on the altar of God to love, respect, and cherish each other, mainly to serve and glorify God with your lives for as long as you shall both live. Tithe is very important in this relationship. This type of tithe goes until the day the two of you get married. Again,  NO TOUCHING! This is the most important thing. When you fail in this; you have lost God’s trust and will lose your partner

    Most importantly, you will loose your salvation. PAY ATTENTION! This is the main purpose of this blog. The main reason why many Christians dating have lost their partner and their salvation.

 

   When the two of you begin kissing, there is a spark between you, a spark that feels good and every inch of your body wants to go further. But, you must gain control over yourself and rebuke it from going any further than just kissing. If the two of you are kissing and you feel as if you are not capable of holding yourself any longer, then speak to your partner and refrain from kissing a little while until you can gain control over yourself again. Now is when you really have to start dating in even better populated areas. This spark becomes stronger and stronger and harder to control. This spark is called love. You are falling in love and it’s a good thing but very dangerous. Listen carefully to when your partner says ‘I think we should stop’ or if you feel you are kissing a little too much, then stop yourselves for a while then go back later. Your partner isn’t going anywhere he’s/she’s yours. Take a break from kissing every few minutes; try to talk more than you kiss.

 

Kiss but DO NOT TOUCH!

A little advise;
  Don’t worry if you don’t know how to kiss, I didn’t, neither did my sister, we never had a boyfriend before, Leo was my first just as Damien was my sisters first. As you kiss you learn. When its your time to kiss, make it your own experience. Each kiss is unique, the best thing about kissing is that you learn as you go. When a baby is born, they have to learn how to walk and talk, they aren’t born running and talking already. The same thing with you. Kissing is all about learning, you learn from each other. If your partner has been in relationships before and knows how to kiss, then that’s fine, he/she will be able to teach you. 

  Hug your partner and kiss anyhow, try different kisses. YES even French kissing. Just be careful because prolonged kissing leads to other things. Try to avoid French kissing or at least rarely do it. It is between you and your partner now, make your own thing, be unique with each other. Have fun, but just be careful for nothing wrong to happen be around people, not necessarily people you know, but be somewhere where you know you wouldn’t do anything stupid, like on a train, or in front of the house, in a park, at a game, at the mall, somewhere. Kiss but DO NOT TOUCH!

My first Kiss

  
  In my case, I was living with Leo's parents for a little while so I can get to know him. Leo did not live with his parents, he lived elsewhere. So, since I was from Massachusetts, 4 hours away, I needed somewhere to stay as I got to know Leo. I had come from MA to NY just to get to know him. So I stayed at his parents house and began working as a secretary for the church whilst I dated.

One day I was leaving church when Leo had just arrived. For some unknown reason he happened to forget to give his dad something, so he made a mission to go out of his way on his trip back. He was coming to his parents house to bring to his dad what he had supposingly forgotten to give him just fifteen minutes ago.

  I guess I was the only one who did not know Leo was going to stop by. As we got home, I sat down in front of TV and began watching a movie with a big bowl of frosted flakes cereal in my hands. Fifteen minutes later I see someone very familiar at the door, I was a little surprised asking myself “what is he doing here?” but then I realized him giving something to his dad so I said “oh, ok”. But after he gave his dad what he came to give him, he stuck around a little longer. He sat by me in the living room and began watching the movie with me and talking to me asking how I was doing. 
(Just in case you're asking "were you guys home alone?" The answer is NO....His entire family was home. His dad, mom and loving sister. His sister was in the bedroom getting ready for bed because it was getting late. His dad was also in his room getting ready for bed, and his mom was in the kitchen finishing up with dinner)
Leo and I were just chilling in the living room watching a movie and me, trying to finish up my delicious bowl of Frosted Flakes.

Then..... Leo asked me if I liked him and I said yes. I actually looked him in the eyes and said “It’s kind of hard for me not to fall in love with you when you are so sweet”.

BOOM !!!!
  Before I could finish my sentence, I received my very first kiss. He had looked me back into the eyes and went straight for the kiss without hesitating. He just went straight for it.

I'm glad he went straight for it because I was extremely shy. I couldn't see myself doing those slow motion kisses, when you know its coming. I would probably giggle my way out of it. So him going straight for it, was the right call.

 

Now can we KISS ???

 

To be able to kiss your partner is something very special.

 

   Gentlemen, when you kiss your lady, this is a seal of your relationship, it tells your lady that you’re in love with her and you’ve truly found your soul mate. This is why you cannot rush things, you can’t just kiss her because you think her lips are beautiful or because you want to experiment kissing. NO! Until this point you were only talking, when you kiss, then it seals this relationship as boyfriend/girlfriend, as sex is a seal of marriage. Once the two of you have kissed you are officially dating and are boyfriend/girlfriend, before you kiss you aren’t boyfriend/girlfriend, you are just friends getting to know each other. After you have kissed, you are boyfriend/girlfriend seeking a lifetime relationship that will be sealed through marriage. So, don’t rush things. Gentlemen, when you’ve spoken to your pastor and your pastor gave you the ok to kiss your girl, then that means its ok by God for you to kiss your girl, in this way it wouldn’t be considered a sin.

   The reason why we’re addressing all the moves to the gentlemen, such as holding hands and especially kissing is because this job is for the man, for a woman to take lead and grab her partners hands when going out for the first time is too bold and should be avoided. Especially kissing, a woman doesn’t just go and kiss her partner on the lips first, that’s a no, no. The gentleman being a man is the one to make that move, this is part of his masculinity, his ego. So be patient, pray and wait on him also, Both of you should keep your pastor informed on your relationship at all times.

 

    Gentlemen when you are certain that you like this woman and you intend to take things further in this relationship, then you can kiss but it is always best to inform your pastor of your plans just to avoid the devils traps. After that is when you make your move. Find the right time to kiss her when there are not much people around. It can be on your next date or if you can find a way to think of something you could do to see her that day then do it. If you want, you can wait until the next date and kiss her hand to see her reaction first before you actually kiss her lips...

Just avoid being completely alone. Make sure there are at least a few people around to prevent the two of you from sinning.

Couldnt have been said better.....My BEAUTIFUL Mom

THIS COMMENT WAS DONE BY MY BEAUTIFUL MOM ON MY LAST POST. I CAN COMPLETELY AGREE WITH IT.

 

Maria F Borba (Elsie)

Yes, I like the way you stated 2-3 months dating period before the kissing starts.That should give you an idea if you want to continue dating or end it. The fact is, kissing is a physical attraction. To a man/woman of God physical attraction is secondary. His/her inner personality and spiritual level should come first. Remember that God put Adam to sleep before making his wife Eve. That means, you should never choose your other half based on his/her physical appearance. Of corse you should be attracted to the person, but it shouldn't be to the point that it blind folds your spiritual judgement. Like Elsie said, you should be feeling comfortable enough with the person before all the kissing takes place. And the kissing should be lightly, nothing too heavy. Remember, you trying to discover if this relationship is going somewhere the way you want it to, if this is the person you want to spend the rest of your life with. :-)))

 

How to know when she's ready for a KISS ?

THIS POST IS ALL ABOUT THE GENTLEMEN
As soon as you begin praying and liking someone, the first thing to do is speak to your pastor let him direct you because remember his direction comes straight from God.

As you are getting into this relationship and you have been dating your partner for a while now, more or less about a month or two maybe three, depending on your situation, you should go and speak to your pastor and let him know how things have been going and tell him what you think about your partner. Is she spiritual? Is she what you’re looking for in a woman of God? tell him everything that has been going on in your relationship, don’t waste time, just let him know the basics, the main point on what the two of you have been talking about. where you have been taking her out too, and so on. Let the pastor know exactly how you feel about her. If you think it is the appropriate time and you feel as if she is ready, ask the pastor if this would be an appropriate time to kiss her. But if you are in constant communication with the pastor, you won’t even need to go to the pastor and ask when the appropriate time to kiss your girl is, he will be directing you daily into this relationship. But don’t be anxious.

   “There is a time for everything, and a season for every activity under heaven: a time to be born and a time to die, a time to plant and a time to uproot, a time to kill and a time to heal, a time to tear down and a time to build, a time to weep and a time to laugh, a time to mourn and a time to dance, a time to scatter stones and a time to gather them, a time to embrace and a time to refrain, a time to search and a time to give up, a time to keep and a time to throw away, a time to tear and a time to mend, a time to be silent and a time to speak, a time to love and a time to hate, a time for war and a time for peace.” Ecclesiastes 3:1-8

Take your time, get to know your lady, make her comfortable to be around you and visa versa. Make sure she’s still not nervous because imagine trying to give her a kiss when she’s still nervous to even hold your hands.... Think about it

 

Use this time wisely to make your lady comfortable, make her comfortable enough to laugh in front of you, to eat in front of you, to stare you straight in the eyes without being shy. Be smooth and work your way to her heart, win her over. Make her melt every time she hears your name, be such a gentlemen that she can’t resist. In addition, continue working with your pastor to find the appropriate time to kiss her.

 

Take your time, one step at a time, don’t try to rush things. Don't act all desperate, because God does not work like that, he does not bless when you are anxious. There is a time for everything. Communicate with your pastor and when you think the two of you are ready, ask your pastor if its the right time to kiss her. But until then work on your relationship so the two of you aren’t nervous anymore and are comfortable with each other.

 

Your pastor or bishop should always be involved in your relationship, from the beginning. After God, he should have been the first to know that you have been praying for God to bless your sentimental life. And to know that you are looking for someone.

LADIES

After you meet your partner, stay in communication with your pastor and his wife, let them know how everything is going and seek more guidance, if you have any questions you may ask your pastor or his  wife.