Learn from experience

One of my bloggers commented on my last post.
I found this to be pretty interesting. 
Please read below:

Dear Mrs Elsie

This post speaks volumes. I have always had an image of the kind of man I wanted God to bless me with. Funny thing, is that I got the exact thing, but spiritually he was not well. I was so focussed on how he should look like, instead of Who he should have inside of him.

Now I have learned to ask God for a man of God. Someone with a heart after His Own. Most importantly I have learned to seek God more than I seek a future husband! He should be my first Husband.

Thanks for this post. God bless

Posted by Lisa Gumada

Have you ever heard that phrase - Don't judge a book by its cover?

What a little make up can do

   You don’t need to tell anyone else about your deep dark secrets, but you do need to talk about it to your partner (this is assuming you spoke to God about it too). Your partner has every right to know. Don't hide anything, be honest and sincere no matter how bad it was or how much it hurts. This is not someone who is going to sit there and judge you; this is someone who is trying to find out about you to be able to make you happy. Let your partner know what your likes and dislikes are in everything, but most importantly, in a relationship. Don't be nervous, act yourself so your partner can see who you are, don’t try to be someone you are not.

 

Fat can be transformed into muscles

   When I met Leonardo I was a little nervous, it’s normal to be nervous because this is something new. However, I remembered I had to calm down and act myself so Leonardo could know the type of person I really am. I don’t think he was nervous, and if he was, he didn’t show it. He was the one that made me laugh and helped me calm down. I still remember when I first met him, my parents were by my side and I was just standing there while everyone else was sitting down, then he said “Please, Elsie come sit here next to me.” Oh man, I thought I was going to die, I was so nervous that I sat next to him but I began playing with my hair, I began getting itchy, I began to fix my skirt and dusting off my shoes, I began doing so much things. Then he saw that I was nervous and said “Elsie, what’s wrong, are you nervous?” and I said “Yes, just a little” so he smiled and said “Its ok, relax, there is nothing to be nervous about” that helped me to calm down and I wasn’t nervous anymore.
 

When this special someone comes to you, it's normal for you to start checking him/her out but don't start judging.

 

Have you ever heard that phrase – Don’t judge a book by its cover?

  

   This means, don't judge your partner by what you expected of him/her. Maybe to you, the woman of your dreams is suppose to have thick eyebrows and the partner God gave you has thinner eyebrows then you expected, maybe in your dreams your partner has 20/20 vision but the one God gave you wears glasses, maybe you wanted a man with a tremendous six pack and big biceps and God gave you a man fifteen pounds overweight; does this mean that God messed up and gave you the wrong partner?

 

 

Of course not! Looks can be deceiving!

 

   What counts the most is what is on the inside. Of course, appearance is also important for a woman and man of God, but in first place comes Spirituality. Don’t judge your partner by what you see and dislike, but instead look for things in him/her that you DO like. The things you like will overpower the things you don’t really like. Thin eyebrows can grow out to become thicker eyebrows, glasses can be replaced with contact lenses, fifteen pounds overweight can be transformed into a tremendous six pack and big biceps through exercise and lifting weights.

 

Look for things you like, like the character and the way he/she talks to you, their dedication in doing the work of God, the way he/she treats you, anything! Remember, whatever you dislike can always be fixed with a change of hair do, a little lifting weights, a little make -up and so on. Don’t let this bother you, put the spirituality first because this is what’s hard to find.

 

HAPPY ANNIVERSARY to my love

HAPPY ANNIVERSARY TO THE LOVE OF MY LIFE.....

Today is our 8th year anniversary and I wanted to take this moment to let my husband know how much I love him!

Leo,
I love you very much, and Thank you for all your patience with me.
It hasn't always been easy, in fact marriage has been really hard. We took forever to adapt with each other.
But we did it!
We've made it this far, and I look forward to spending the rest of my life with you.

Love always
Elsie

What can a couple do in the 'Fast of Daniel'

One of my bloggers named Lisa Gumada had an interesting question that I think all of you could benefit from as well.
Her question was: "regarding things like the Fast of Daniel, what kind of purposes can a couple do together, with the aim of growing more in their spiritual lives?"

Lisa,
Thanks for commenting. 
To answer your question, I think that in a purpose such as the Fast of Daniel. If a couple is dating they can make some sort of dating sacrifice to bless not only their spiritual life but also their relationship.

Sacrifice is always good. It hurts but always pays off in the long run. 
Sacrifices that could be done while dating are things like:
*No calling each other until the fast is over and only going out together like once a week.
*No dating but only calling each other like once a week until the fasting is over

If you want a REAL CHALLENGE and you want to go all out
*No dating or calling each other at all until the fasting is over.
Of course, don't get me wrong, if you cross by your partner in the church or in the street it doesn't mean you have to ignore them. But the whole concept is to do your sacrifice.

If a couple is married
Then maybe the two of you can seek the Holy Spirit at home together everyday throughout the Fast of Daniel.

This will help you get stronger in your primary relationship with God

I hope that answers your question Lisa

Meeting your partner, and how about that FIRST DATE

  

When God sends you your partner, it is the most amazing thing you could imagine. It is the result of your sacrifices. This is your partner! If you did everything you were supposed to, then you can be assured that this person is not going anywhere, whatever God gives, the devil cannot take away. But remember, God only protects what’s yours when you follow Him. If you decide to slack in your relationship with God and say “ohhh, now I have my partner that’s all I wanted, so now I am happy”, or “Now I can sit back and relax because my partner is not going anywhere” WRONG! if you slack, your partner will be taken from you and given to someone else more spiritual then you. You will lose out. 

   Also, it is very important to keep your pastor informed on your sentimental life . Its a MUST, because he can pray for you and with God’s direction he will direct you.

 

   When you finally meet your partner for the first time greet him/her properly, introduce yourself, don’t keep thinking or saying "This is hard to

believe" because its not. God gave you your answer, in His words it does say

“And whatever you ask in My name, that I will do, that the father may be glorified in the son. If you ask anything in My name, I will do it” John 14:13-14 (NKJ).

Realize that God says two times that whatever we ask He will do. So don’t think "This is hard to believe" because it makes God sad, it makes Him think you don’t believe in His power.

   *** Gentlemen... when you first meet your lady and all is well, ask her out on a date. A simple one to start off, just so the two of you can talk a little.

 

   Both of you need to 'Test the spirit !' you don’t know her, she doesn’t know you, so test each others spirit. How do you test the spirit??? Occasionally do something to see his/her reaction. Find out what’s their main purpose in this relationship, if it’s just for the sex after marriage or if it’s to spend the rest of your lives together happily married and having a great companion by your side. Ask your partner straight forward questions, anything that you need to know or are interested in knowing.  Do things to see their reaction and compare it to that of a woman or man of God. However he/she reacts you can multiply it by ten and that is how their reaction will be when the two of you are married.

   When on a date, ALWAYS go to well populated areas, on the first date do something very simple so the two of you can do nothing else but talk. Grab a bite to eat, go for a nice little walk in the park, something simple. Its better if the two of you don’t even share food or hold hands on the first date, it just makes it better so the two of you can talk and not be so nervous. Save the holding hands for the next date. Go out and talk, talk, talk and talk on this date, get to know everything about each other that way by the second date the two of you will feel a bit more comfortable together. In this stage, talking is everything; you have to talk as much as you can to one another. Ask questions, talk about how God made the two of you meet, talk about what you were doing in order for God to bless your sentimental life, and express how happy you are to have found this special person, avoid talking about the bible all the time concentrate on talking about yourselves because your trying to learn about each other.

   Ask many questions, as much as you can, main questions are: 

"How old are you?"

"What's your highest level of education ?"

"Tell me a little about your family?"

"What animals do you like? 

"What's your nationality?"

"What are your hobbies?"

"What are your favorite foods?"

" Can you cook?"

"When did you come to church?"

"What is your testimony, your background?"

"Were you baptized in water and with the Holy Spirit? If so then when?"

"Is there an interest in doing the work of God? and/or how far do they intend on going in the work of God?"

"Where do you work?"

"How long have you been employed there?"

"Do you evangelize?"

"Were you ever in a relationship before? if so, what went wrong?"

"Do you still have any feelings for your previous partner?"

"Do you have kids?"

"Do you want kids?"

and so on....

 

   Ask many questions. Questions on top of questions and allow your partner to ask many questions too. If any personal questions are asked, questions regarding previous relationships, don’t hesitate to answer, even if it hurts... Your current partner will end up mending that broken heart of yours, but in order to mend your broken heart you have to allow your partner into your deepest secrets. This is probably something you never spoke about to anyone, and probably planned on never entering that subject again. But for your partner, You have too!

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Run... and run as fast as you can!

This is part two.

To understand this post, you have to go back and read my post

 'Don't despise someone who asks you out'

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DON'T GET TRAPPED

Moreover, that’s exactly what happened! She left him alone and he did all this on his own. He became delivered from his problems, he found her and they got married.

But be careful, because at the time of your determination and consistent prayers the devil will try to send many wrong people your way to trap you as he tried doing to me. When I was determined to save myself for a man of God, its like the devil would try to stop me. The men he would send at this point weren’t like the others. These men were now more persistent. I would say NO and give them the same speech I gave the others but they didn’t care, they kept coming back and kept asking me the same questions as if they didn’t hear me say NO the first time. They kept asking if I would go out with them, if I wanted to see the game with them, if I wanted to meet their family and so on. This would just get me even more revolted because on their face you could see that the only thing they were interested in was sex, it was written all over their face, it wasn’t just one or two of these men but there were about seven and they were persistent.

It was unbelievable how these men were just throwing themselves at me. And it was back to back. But I knew it was a trap of the devil to try and distract me from my goal of having my man of God by my side.

I know that if I wasn’t in constant communion with God and constant wars every hour stomping on the devil’s head, I would have failed. I would have fallen into one of these traps of the devil and wouldn’t be able to pick myself back up. If I would have left an opening by slacking in my prayers and giving a foot hold to the devil for him to get into my life, by today I would be a wreck. It’s a good thing that I knew what I was getting myself into – WAR – but it wasn’t against flesh and blood but against satan himself

 “For we are not fighting against people made of flesh and blood, but against the evil rulers and authorities of the unseen world, against those mighty powers of darkness who rule this world, and against wicked spirits in the heavenly realms” Ephesians 6:12 (NLT).

Once you get into war there is only one of two ways out, DEAD or ALIVE!

 DEAD by falling into one of the devil’s many schemes or ALIVE by being victorious and more persistent than the devil. I was determined to overcome and was not about to let the devil bring me down. When the devil realizes your determination, he will try his all to make you fall. The same thing happened to my sister Elise, so I know what I'm talking about. In school there was this boy, very handsome, light-skinned, dark blonde curly hair, blue eyes, that all the girls melted when they saw him, but guess what! He didn’t want none of the other girls he wanted my sister Elise. He wanted to have her, when he asked my sister out, he couldn’t believe his ears when my sister told him No!

Anyways....After constant prayers and persistence, after my sacrifice in the Campaign of Israel exactly four months later then my sister Elise, I Elsie found my partner, Assistant Pastor Leonardo. I was introduced to him by his father ( Bp. Francisco) and my dad (Pr. Nathaniel),who by the way was drawn into me by my smile (this is where the post I wrote about always looking your best at all times comes in very handy). Bp. Fransisco and my dad organized the whole thing to get us to meet. The next thing I knew I was in the arms of Leo, just like it happened to Rebekah and Isaac (Genesis 24). And to our surprise we actually met before, we met each other in South Africa many years ago, about fifteen years ago when we were still young. We used to play together along with all the other children (because our parents were always traveling to preach the Good news, so this is when our parents were sent to Africa to do the work of God, and we met there).

Look how great God works! 

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Don't despise someone who asks you out

   I participated in the Campaign of Israel with everything; prayers and fasting like never before. I also sacrificed all the money I had (I mean everything even pennies) I dedicated myself one hundred and twenty percent more to God, I made an effort to evangelize and serve God with my life more, I did all this for God to bless me sentimentally but I didn’t forget to read the Bible and seek the Holy Spirit daily for myself, for me to have a true encounter with God. So that way when my blessing came I would be prepared for it. As I did all of these things I continued praying to God asking Him to help me be Spiritual and not get anxious, (because it happens) every once in a while I would start to worry about how I am going to meet him, if around me there is no one I am interested in. But as soon as this anxiety started I would cut it off by seeking the Holy Spirit and thanking God for my blessing that I already know is in the process and on its way to me.

    I didn’t do all of these things just because my sister now had a boyfriend and I didn’t. I did this because I too wanted to serve God just as she did. It seemed as if the more I persevered the more the devil would try to trap me, but there was no way I was going to give the devil a foot hold in my life. I was determined and revolted at the same time I had one goal in mind and it was to get my partner. At this point the devil tried sending many, many men of this world to me, it has happened before where men have come up to me and asked me out but I would tell them NO and if they were interested I would explain to them why, I would tell them that I wanted a man of God.  Then I would invite them to church, (because only God knows.) But if it wasn’t my partner I invited, then I just helped someone else’s partner get to church. Many thought I was weird and many just said ok and let it go.

   Don’t despise someone who asks you out or who is interested in you but instead invite them to church – ONLY, don’t go any further than giving this one invitation because the devil is dirty, he can use this situation to trap you in a worldly and ungodly relationship. The reason you should invite is because there are several cases in the church, in which a person was in the church and the other was still in this world (Unconverted); An invitation was given for this person to come to church and he/she accepted, came, and God blessed. One case is a man who before coming to the church was a drug addict and full of problems, today he is a Bishop of our church. He was evangelized by an Assistant of the church and ended up liking her. He asked her out, she invited him to church. He was so interested in her that he told her he was going to come to church, be delivered from his problems and all addictions and then he was going to marry her.

How about me....Where is my Man?

   Make God happy because He will see that when He blesses you with this spiritual partner you won’t just give Him the cold shoulder, you won’t stop praying and doing everything you were doing. He will notice that you are in for the long run, that you are asking for a partner, but you are also asking for yourself and are taking care of your salvation because you know that no matter what, salvation is individual.

   Do all these things and before you know it your partner will be right before your very own eyes, and it won't be just anyone. If you did everything that was mentioned in the previous posts, your partner  will be the one you will end up marrying and spending the rest of your life with. You will not have your heart broken because this is the person sent to you by God to make you happy. 

   My twin sister and I were born together in the same sac, we grew up together and were taught everything we know together. When we were twelve years old our mother used to send us to the sentimental services held in the church (Therapy of Love), and she would tell us to begin praying for our husbands she would say “Elsie and Elise, you don’t know where your husbands are, for all you know he might be in the hands of the devil” so every week we were there, the only two twelve year olds in the bundle of adults, praying for our sentimental lives. At the time we didn’t understand the purpose of all this we thought it was crazy, I mean we were just twelve – we still wanted to play with toys and we were already there praying for a husband. But we did what we were told, we knew that something was going to come out of this, and it sure did! (Our dream was to give our lives in doing the work of God, but not everyone is meant to have this same dream, maybe your dream is to not do the work of God as a pastor or pastors wife but it is to do something else. But according to our dream and determination God answered us).

   At seventeen, five years later my sister Elise was introduced to her partner, Assistant Pastor Damien by an elder in the church. Damien wasn’t always happy and blessed the way he is now, his ex life style as you can read in his book "Shoulda been Dead" was gang banging, addiction to drugs, and a prisoner always in and out of jail, until he found God. As Elise began speaking to him and asking questions she realized that at the age she was in church praying for her sentimental life, at that exact time Damien was in the gang, beginning to have second thoughts. Through her perseverance, Damien began coming to church and became free from all bondage. Note: Damien was in Atlanta, Georgia; USA while Elise was in Pawtucket, Rhode Island, USA (thousands of miles apart). Through prayer, she got her partner and he is completely transformed Thank God.

 

   Amen, I was happy for her but now how about me, Where is my husband?

So I became revolted, I began praying and fasting; I made chains of prayers, praying every hour by hour on the dot, for five minutes long every hour these prayers were against the devil. I would stretch my hands and begin binding all evil wherever my husband to be was.

 

Continuation of my story on Sundays post......

Keep tuned to find out how I got to find MY MAN!!!

I WANT TO HEAR YOU

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Little by little through this blog, I will be answering your questions
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You mean business!

  

Break all curses of hell that is sending all the wrong people to your partner such as worldly partners that are only blocking his/her ways from finding you

Let the devil know you mean business!

 

    That you're not joking around. For all you know, your partner might be completely in the devils hands right now he/she might not even be in the church yet and probably isn’t even planning on coming to the church. Your partner was probably given an invitation to come to church and probably rejected it. He/she might be in prison or selling drugs on street corners, probably she is selling her body to every man that could give her ten bucks for a one night stand. He might be the leader of the toughest gang around – killing, stealing, getting high, clubbing etc. You don't  know where your partner may be right now. You may not even know who he/she is but by faith you know he’s/she’s yours. You must pray for him/her to be yours because he/she cannot come to you in this way; he/she has to be completely transformed.

    Don’t waste time on day dreaming!

 

 

    Your partner is at risk of being shot down like a dog on the street, or risks catching HIV and dying. Burn every one of the devil’s plans and/or projects for your partner’s life by opening your mouth and speaking against the devil and determining your victory by faith. Also, ask God to protect your partner, to open the doors of heaven so your partner can find the house of God. He/she is out there somewhere either in the church or still in the streets. On the mean time as you are doing these things don’t hesitate to look your best at all times, you don’t want to get caught of guard, because remember, you still haven’t met your partner so you might meet him/her at anytime and you might want to look your best. Appearance is important for a man or woman of God because ‘first appearance’ means a lot but most importantly before physical appearance comes the spiritual one. 

 

Make sure you are up to date in your spiritual life. Stay in communication with God, seeking the Holy Spirit for yourself on a daily basis. This is your time, its not the time to mention anything about your partner. This is your time with God, a time where you can show God that you really love Him. Have a encounter with God, and by doing this, you will grow spiritually and have the strength to do all that is needed to be done. Make God look down favourably upon you, you  must catch His attention. For there are billions of people on earth so why must His eyes look upon you?  

 

 “For the eyes of the LORD search back and forth across the whole earth, looking for people whose hearts are perfect toward him, so that he can show his great power helping them…”

2 Chronicles 16:9 .

 

Make God happy to see that you don't just want the blessing of having a partner by your side but that you actually want the Blesser.