You only get one chance to make a first impression

  

Your appearance in general and also whilst dating is extremely important. Why? Because it represents you, it represents who you are. Appearance is very important, have you ever heard of the saying “You only get one chance to make a first impression.” It is true, because if someone sees you for the first time and you look horrible, for example if God sends you the person of your dreams and you meet for the first time how would you look? If you look horrible and are not well dressed, smelling good or looking nice, you could probably miss your opportunity because in reality no one likes or feels really attracted to someone who isn’t well presented or in other words presentable (Looking nice). Especially a man/woman who is just meeting you. We always have to look our best not just for someone else but for God as well because remember our bodies are the temple of the Holy Spirit. 

My sister and I used to dress very well before getting married, we tried very hard to always look our absolute best at all times because my mental motto was. “I never know exactly, what day it will be when God blesses me and sends the man of God in my direction.” Or “I never know what day or time I will meet the right man for me.” So we used to walk around well presented all of the time.

   Our Husbands Of Faith   (H.O.F) came to us in a seemingly surprising way; especially for me. I didn’t even know that I would be meeting my H.O. F , the answer to my  prayer on a regular day when I was just visiting another U.C.K.G branch. This day turned out to be a day I'll never forget. Being well presented at all times is the key. As I said, I used to always dress up well, it helped me a lot in my search for finding not only a man of God but also for someone who would end up being my (H.O.F). It worked I found him. But after finding him and getting married I tried to continue always looking nice but it just seemed as if time wasn’t enough to add on the extra house chores I had to now do, plus to take care of my appearance as before. Come on I used to spend about 1 ½ to 2 hours every morning just to get ready to leave the house. So I just stopped taking care of myself.  But after a few months and as I was slowly neglecting my appearance all of a sudden one day it clicked.

   I (with a little help from people who mean a lot to me) realized that appearance is not only before I get married or before I find my (H.O.F), but it is a life long necessary thing. It helps me feel better about myself, raising my self – esteem and also my (H.O.F) will  always be pleased when he looks at his wife. I started making time for my appearance, doing my daily chores and if needs be, waking up a little earlier or going to sleep a little later in order to fix myself up. Taking care of my skin, nails, eyebrows, hair and every other part of my body. This is something that I learned and I intend to keep this lesson in my treasure box for the rest of my life because it is something wise. So from experience I tell you, it is not only important to take care of your appearance just to find true love but also to keep your true love. To put a block on the devil trying anything in your marriage. This message applies both for men and women.

  Come back this week, I will jot down a few simple guidelines of How To keep a good general appearance for both men and women, who need appearance/ beauty tips or ideas. 

Get Rid Of It

Dear Blogger:

 If you think all the good women/men in this world are taken then think again! Have you ever heard that saying, 'There are A LOT of fish in the ocean'? Well, there are!

If you haven't found your other half yet, then maybe its time you work on 'you' first before looking for your partner. How do you expect someone to love you and care for you? How do you expect to be so happy in your love life if you aren't happy in your own skin? How can you expect someone to love you if you don't even love yourself?

 No matter what your complex is, get rid of it by not allowing yourself to lean on the excuse of this or that. GET RID OF IT  pray and ask God to help you get rid of these nasty complexes.  

   God is perfect and He created each and every one of us in His split image. He knew what he was doing!  “Every good and perfect gift is from above, coming down from the Father…” James 1:17 (NIV).

What's my Complex ? (7)

• Complexes about your background – Your background is your background. Its your past, it's behind you, it’s done and over with. You can not do anything to change it, all you can chose to do is to move on with out it affecting you and weighing you down. Your background is what helps you in the future not to commit the same mistakes again. Or it can cause your downfall! You are the one who decides the outcome. You can look forward, be positive, and learn from your past mistakes. Or, you can keep thinking about your past and beating yourself up about it, being negative all the time and thinking that you can't go nowhere in life or achieve anything Great, because you have this bad background. Always bringing the past with you to the future. 

Sometime we need to learn to just let Go!

Suck it up, learn from your mistakes, hold your head up and move on!!!

What's my Complex? (6)

Complexes about your weight – Some people who say that they are overweight or underweight aren’t even as bad as they think. 


Besides, who gets to decide what is the right weight for women and men??? 
Who has the authority and power to decide on the right weight we should be at. Last I checked, no one on this universe has that answer. Of coarse we should always strive to look our best and be as healthy as possible. But don't allow society to tell you that a size 4 or 6 is the only size you should be or else your fat. Don't allow society to tell you that if you aren't buff with a six pack then you aren't a man. 

The right weight is the one you decide on! When you look in the mirror and love what you see. When you are healthy, and energetic. Wheter that weight is 250lbs or 130lbs, you are the one who decides what is right for you. Not Society! There are a lot of men out there that love a heavier woman, same way there are a lot of  men who love a skinnier woman. There are a lot of women out there that love a muscular man with a nice six -pack, same way there are a lot of women who love the spare tires or the love handles. 

You get to decide who you want to be, and you work hard to get there. If you see that for you to reach your own personal goal weight you are currently under weight, try drinking 'ensure' to help you gain some weight, Eat more often and foods that contain a bit of fat, hit the gym and gain some muscle (Muscles weigh). Speak to your doctor to see how you can gain weight and still be healthy. If you are a bit overweight then do the exact opposite, speak to your doctor about how you can loose weight the healthy way. See a nutritionist, hit the gym at least four times a week and do cardio and fat burning exercises. Eat less often, eat low fat or even fat free foods, exchange the starches on your plate for more green veggies.If you would like to be more toned.... The only way is by hitting the gym like a beast and lifting weights and doing crunches and push ups etc. Muscles don't come by you just sitting there desiring it.

Either way  there is still a person out there who would love you in the weight you choose to be best for you; Except without that, Hmm! (Lets call it a) Stinky Complex.  Get rid of this weight complex by choosing your own personal goal weight and working towards that. Don't stop until you get there.