Choosing the right partner (part 2)

   

Little by little she began falling in love with him and a few months later they got married in the UCKG and began the work of God together, traveling the world to preach the good news. This gentleman that approached my mother was a semi-short, light skinned Brazilian man who had black hair and black eyes.

God sent to our mother the man of her dreams without her even knowing, she thought that the man of her dreams was this tall dark skinned man with hazel eyes, which in reality was nowhere near. Today my mom is happily married for Twenty two years and divorce is nowhere in the picture, they are actually looking forward to more and more years together. Another case is a gentleman who I know, he being a tall, light skinned man with green eyes prayed for a tall, dark skinned woman; He ended up falling in love and marrying the true woman of his dreams - a short, light skinned woman.

    

In the stage of you being single, persevere in prayers, fasting, sacrifice, because sacrifice is what brings the result even quicker. Prepare yourself in everyway to receive your blessing, but DO NOT be anxious. God did not create anxiety!

"An anxious heart weighs a man down..." Proverbs 12:25 (NIV)

     Seek the Holy Spirit as much as possible especially when feeling lonely, ask God to temporarily fill that empty space inside of you. Then use your faith to believe that while you are preparing yourself for your soon to be partner, God is on the other side preparing your partner for you. Also make it a daily habit to stretch out your hands towards the outside world and begin to bind all evil around your husband or wife to be, but really burn all evil around them by faith. Why stretch out your hands? Because when you stretch your hands straight out, it represents (shows) authority. For example when you are driving and at the traffic light stands a police officer, although the light is green and it is your go, if that police officer stretches out a hand, straight out. You automatically stop without thinking twice. Why is that? It's because that police officer is an authority,  when their hand is stretched out it means something. So when you stretch out your hands it means something too, it shows your authority over the devil. Jesus Himself gave you that authority “These signs will accompany those who believe: They will cast out demons in my name…” Mark 16:1 (NLT). “And I have given you authority over all the power of the enemy…” Luke 10:19 (NLT). So the devil must obey he has no choice. Talk directly to the devil tell him to let go of your partner wherever he/she is. If your partner is still in this world on drugs, alcohol, prostitution, in a gang, sleeping around etc. If your partner wants nothing to do with God, bind all evil around him/her from finding Jesus.

Choosing the right partner

We need to pray and ask God to close our eyes and choose our partner just as He did to Adam.

Do you know why God put Adam to sleep before making Eve?
Because us human beings are never satisfied and our eyes are very critical!

If Adam was awake he probably would’ve said to God, “oh no… she’s too fat, too skinny, too tall, too short, too ugly etc., etc.” But because God knew Adam better than he knew himself, he made the perfect woman for him that when Adam awoke he was so amazed with the work of God that he couldn’t say anything; but to love the woman. This is exactly what happened to my sister and I and we are absolutely sure that the same will happen to you, if you allow God to close your eyes and choose your companion for you. Read (Genesis 2:21 – 25) and ask God to close your physical eyes and open your spiritual ones.

If you are single and looking for a man/ woman of God the only thing to do is pray, prayer brings the result to everything. Pray that God may shut your eyes so that you may not look with physical eyes for anyone but that God may search the world and choose the right person for you. God knows everything, He created everyone, He knows who you are and what kind of character you have, He knows who your perfect match is. Don’t look around you to see if there is anyone else cute and single. Where you are there might not be!

 

Don’t be negative, negativity doesn’t come from God. Pray and ask God to shut your eyes so you wont look for anyone, but, let Him know that you want to serve Him and in order to serve Him you need a spiritual partner; You don’t even need to describe what type of person you want God knows – remember he created you. He knows you more than you know your own self. But if you want to describe to God what type of person you would like as your partner, then go right ahead.

 I have known people who described to God what type of person they’d like as a suitable partner and all these people ended up falling in love with someone completely different then they described. In all these cases it happened to be the exact opposite of their descriptions, that’s why we say “God knows you more than you know your own self.” One of these cases was my mother; Twenty two years ago when she came to the Universal Church of the Kingdom of God after being converted and becoming an assistant, wanting to get married to a man of God to do the work of God. She, being a semi - short light skinned woman would pray for a tall, dark skinned man with hazel eyes, before she knew it a gentleman from the church approached her and properly introduced himself to her then he asked her out on a date, she accepted.

 

 

Continuation about what happened to my mom on my next post that will be posted on Sunday.......

Wordly vs Godly relationships (part 2)

In a relationship of the world you can do anything, with no limits at all. But you can also get anything with no limits at all. You’ll do anything imaginable to try and keep your partner, anything! Including sex before marriage. Not thinking of the consequences you face. You’re only thinking about having fun and keeping your partner. But the consequences you face are so important;
You are looking at:
*Facing severe depression of being let down once again by the person whom you thought this time would be it.
* Getting pregnant and facing the dilemma of having to carry around a baby and for the rest of your life. While not being yet prepared for it and by someone whom you might not even love.
*Lets not forget that STD (Sexually Transmitted Disease) such as Aids, HIV, Syphilis, Herpes or Chlamydia, they still exist. They are not just made up STD's they are actually out there. Because I work in the church, I know a lot of people that have them, people that you couldn't imagine in your wildest dreams that would have it.  AND TO DIE!  For a few minutes of fun! What’s so fun about any of this?

 Worldly relationships can be called "fun", but at the end of the day there are consequences that you and you alone will have to face. Most of the time the flesh is the one that ends up paying the price for it. I personally don’t think its worth it, how about you? Think about it....

Godly Relationships

   On the other hand there are Godly relationships. In a Godly relationship you would do basically what this blog will be teaching you to do. The opposite of a worldly relationship.

*You would go out with the person, speak and get to know him/her both inside and out.

*You would also test the spirit of the person which is to see how the person responds to what you do or say. Testing the spirit is another word for saying keep your eyes open to what your partner thinks about God.

*When this person is relaxed and normal how does he/she act? Is he/she putting on a fake façade in front of others or even in front of you? That is testing the spirit. (Seeing this person’s true self, what he/she is really like?)

*What does this man/woman think about God?

*Is he/she spiritually at your level?

Then think sensibly whether or not this person is the right one for you. Because after all marriage is forever.

   The person in the Godly relationship is looking out for the bigger picture which is marriage, and not just any marriage but instead a happy marriage. They don’t go out for fun or just because they haven’t slept with someone in a long time and need to rapidly find someone new to sleep with. The Godly relationship is led by the Spirit of God, and not by the person’s physical or emotional needs. When dating in a Godly manner yes it is more difficult than normal and yes it is more limited in what you can and cannot do, but it is all for your benefit. Look at the things that you can do rather than the things that you cannot do (for now). Treasure and take advantage of things you are allowed to do. Use your time wisely to get to know your partner. Dear reader: sacrifice your fleshly or physical desires. Since when did a sacrifice not hurt? Ask our father of faith Abraham.

    I’m not Abraham, nor was I even alive to see the expression on his face or the feeling in his heart when God asked him to sacrifice his dearest and only son Isaac. But I’m sure that it must have hurt. His heart probably fell to the ground the instant God asked him to sacrifice his son. But nevertheless he did it.!He walked the entire journey with one purpose; to sacrifice. Even though it hurt. Read his story (Genesis 22), the outcome was victory; he was a man of sacrifice. Thousands of years later and people still remember the faith of our father Abraham.

   By doing things Gods way and having a Godly relationship. You won’t have to go through the horrible consequences that the worldly relationship leads to. You wont end up with an STD  or pregnant: Because you didn’t sleep around. You wont feel sad and lonely: Because God is with you and if the relationship is from God  you wont break up and have a new boyfriend/ girlfriend every month. But instead you will have a true meaningful relationship that lasts and leads up to marriage. You wont end up depressed and broken hearted because this person if he/she is from God he/ she will treat you with the up most respect and care. You won’t have to feel depressed because this person always makes you feel good. You won’t have low self esteem because your partner is forever telling you how beautiful or handsome you are.

   The consequences in this type of relationship compared to a worldly relationship is a 180 degree turn. They are completely different from one another. And at the end of the day because you sacrificed your flesh; God will honor you. In ways more than you can imagine. Make your choice which relationship do you want to be in?

 The Worldly relationship or the Godly relationship? 

                                    Be Wise!

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Wordly VS Godly relationship

 

The bible (Proverbs 31) talks about the wise and virtuous woman of God. This passage  has helped every men of God who is looking for the right one and every women of God who is trying to be the right one. I am sure that this blog will be a great guide to many relationships, I pray to God that He may use me through this blog so that many souls can be saved from falling into the worldly traps of the devil. The traps that when one falls into; being a Christian, it can cost their salvation. It can cause them to lose everything they have worked so hard for. With this blog it will be clear on what God expects from a Christian while dating. The truth about dating will be out in the open there will no longer be a way to fall into sin while dating unless you choose to. Everything you need to know is right here. Now it’s your choice whether you want to learn or not!

Worldly Vs Godly Relationship

Before you start a relationship you first need to know what kind of relationship you want. In the relationship you are about to enter, you have one of two choices as to what kind of relationship you want to get into. As you read below you will have to choose. So make the right choice and you’ll be happy.
Do you want a Worldly or a Godly relationship? Start Reading!

Worldly relationship
In a relationship of this world or ( the worldly relationship) in a sense you could say that it is more freely than a Godly relationship; because you can kiss, hug, touch each other anywhere, have sex, enjoy each others company, not hold back emotions and so forth. In a worldly relationship you can do anything you want there are no limits, there are no rules or regulations that you need to go by.

People who are in this type of relationship, for a short while enjoy it. They enjoy having no limits; or boundaries. The reason being is that the human flesh enjoys having things their way. Not having anyone telling them what they can or can't do. You want to do what you feel like doing and when you feel like doing it. But this fleshly ignorance is what causes loss of salvation and spiritual death.

 I repeat; the flesh considers worldly relationships FUN. But do you consider fun being happy or physically satisfied for a few minutes or hours in a day? Is Fun still considered fun when you end up sad, alone and lonely, broken hearted, depressed, crying yourself to sleep. That feeling of being used, picking up pieces of your broken shattered heart, or being passed on to man after man or woman after woman in a trying and losing attempt of finding true love. Call me crazy but I don’t think this is fun at all. To me, and maybe even to you, deep down inside.

 

This ain't FUN!

 

 

 

 

Me and Steve Harvey

Steve Harvey

No !!!
I never met Steve Harvey, and no I don't have a picture with me and him on it. There's him, then there's me...
But, I will tell you this...


Then there's me...

Many things that Steve Harvey says, I can agree too. And for that, I can say we are on the same page here.

Have you ever watched "The Steve Harvey show", it's hilarious and mostly always inspirational. If you haven't watched the show yet, What planet are you?

On one of his shows he mentioned something that really had me thinking. It was that strong! He said this, and it is so true.
I want you to think about it and go with it!

WOMAN MAYBE YOU NEED TO WALK???
There is only one woman that a man will change for....meaning, if you are with a man that, cheats on you, beats on you, and does you no good, you have to have enough self worth to realize that you don't deserve that. Men need us women! To be able to have kids, to be that companion that they need, that support system that his friends can't give him. They need our tender care, our home cooked meals, our house skills, they need us for many, many reasons. The bible says: Then the Lord God said: "It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper who is just right for him." Genesis 2:18

With that said; If the man you're with does you no good, you need to pray about it, but then talk to him at a moment that he is calm, and I say talk not nag, there's a big difference.
Let him know exactly what it is that he is doing that is making you unhappy and give him a chance to change. Give it about a month, then if he is still doing the same things, come back to him again when he is in a happy mode, and talk to him about those same issues again, this time giving an ultimatum. But, you need to realize that by doing this you may stay together or you may end up splitting. If your partner is serious about being with you, he will do what your asking, afraid to lose you. If you are not the right one for him, he will let you go. Sometimes you leaving is what it takes for him to realize that you are serious with what you demanded he change. And if he can't be without you, believe me....he'll come running back, changed!

I was scared!

“How to Date God’s Way” is to clarify the how to’s of dating.

In this world of today, dating is only dating when long kisses are involved, sex, and the permission to touch all areas of your partners body. A lot of people who supposedly call themselves Christians have also fallen into this worldly trap that satan has invented. There is only one true way to date and that would be 'God’s way', according to what is written in the Bible.

 

What inspired me to create this blog is the simple fact that there aren’t many books out there to teach a true Christian how to date. Many people don't know what can be done while dating and what should be saved for marriage only, like sex.

 Sure....Most people heard the term "Sex is for marriage only", and some do try to save it for marriage only, but along the way they somehow give up on that concept all together. They give in! So we can say; that's easy to say and hard to do. 

 Sometimes there are questions that need to be answered but we get embarrassed to ask someone. We can’t ask a friend because the answer a friend might give us is most likely to be worldly.  Then we are left with unanswered questions and risk doing what's wrong because we are afraid or too proud to ask someone who can help us. So, we prefer to go day by day doing things our way, and dating the best way we know how 'Our way'! We try not to make it noticeable to others that we don't know what we are doing. We fear that they might think we aren't spiritual enough to figure it out on our own.

My sister and I were in this situation. We had many questions about our relationship because this was the very first time we dated. We didn't want to make any mistakes and end up embarrassing our selves and God. We really liked our boyfriends and didn't want to do anything stupid to end up loosing them. We were in a relationship and scared; very scared! We really didn't  have a clue on how to do this. We were so clueless.

Thankfully God gave us a very wise mother who is a pastor’s wife in the Universal Church of the Kingdom of God. She is the one who taught us the basics on what to do while dating and what should be saved for marriage only.

Everything she taught us was based on a scripture from the bible, God used her to teach us. We swallowed in all the information given to us and were longing for more. Going into a relationship, we felt as an eight-month-old infant being taught to walk without a walker, thankfully for our mom we had a little help on walking. What I find stunning is the fact that there are many women and men alike, who don’t even have the little help we had; the basics going into a relationship. We had a pastor’s wife as a mom since we were four years old. How about those women and men who came into the church on their own and their families want nothing to do with God. They seek this spiritual help in the church and become free from their problems, through God they find deliverance and happiness. Now; along comes this special someone whom they find themselves spiritually and physically attracted to...their Prince Charming or Cinderella. But they don’t know what to do not even a CLUE.

 In this blog you will find everything I learned on how to date. The do’s and don’ts, the wise sayings and inspirations, the instructions from my parents, the verses in the bible that talk about these things and so on.

So keep posted......!

Dedicated to:

Here you will find "Quick and easy guidelines to having a successful Christian relationship 'God's way' until marriage".

 

Dedicated to:

This blog is dedicated to everyone who is single and looking for the right one, for those who are dating and are unsure if they are with the right one, and for those who ask 'What is dating God's way ?'

 

To my cousins Jenny and Michelle who were by our (my sister and I) side and know how hard we fought to achieve our men of God. We pray that you can wait in the Lord just like we did.

I would like to thank my Mom and Dad who were always there for us when we needed them. Bishop Macedo and Bishop Francisco who were used by God to help bring to us our men of God.

 

Thank You!

 

 

Learning How to date. God's way!

Hello and welcome to

'HOW TO DATE GOD'S WAY'

In this blog, you will learn how to date the right way. Dating the way God intended for it to be.

You will get my hands down experience from what I did while dating. I will also share with you lots of examples of other couples I know that dated God's way and today they are happy, with the love of their life by their side.

Think about it.... there are too many people dating their own way now a days. Not knowing right from wrong. Even Christians!

You may think you are dating the correct way before God, but yet you may not be!

Most of the times you may not know what God expects from dating. There are too many opinions on how people think you should date, when there is only one real way to date

and that's GOD'S WAY!

I invite you to join me in my life's journey on what I did whilst dating.
Learn all the pro's and con's of dating
Find out what's right before God's eyes and what's not

Finally! Help has arrived

I overcame peer pressure, I over came the hormones that go rushing through your body while dating. I overcame it all to make sure I did this God's way.

I knew that dating right, dating God's way, was going to take my love life somewhere. I knew that doing this the right way, I wasn't going to be disappointed.

I knew that listening, and following through with dating God's way was going to have its rewards.

And it did!

Today I can say, I have been happily married for 8 yrs to a God fearing man. I married my first boyfriend.

Not to many people can say that....